I still email my ex but mostly jokes and pictures of kids. He drank too much (I can't tell you if he was an alcoholic, only he can) and he smoked pot. I wasn't drinking at the time. He's always been a cheat and a liar. I feel sorry for his new wife because I actually was friends with her when we were younger. She'll figure it out soon enough.
I'm remarried to someone who is kind and I don't have any children with first husband so I don't really need to talk to him. I'm still struggling but I'm so glad to be where I am today.