Jwife22, I so appriciate your post. I do not feel like you were trying to be harsh. I guess I need that. I am also interested in hearing from people who have lived with A. I did cry as I read your post knowing how hard it is to live with a man like that so I can't even imagine being a child so it is helpful for me seeing it from a kids perspective.
I will take everything that was said here to heart and it will help me as I make this hard dicision.
On the business. I live in a community property state so I know I have some protection from that but I will take the advice and see an attorney and as someone mentioned maybe it will help me see my options. It could help me see where I need to go.
I am sorry I haven't responded as I want because I have a hard time remembering everything.
It is really hard to follow through in the difficult step of leaving.