I am really trying to change my thought process on basing my decisions on his happiness. It is a hard thing to change though. I am looking into the al-anon today and al-ateen today. I honesty just wish he would stop drinking. My daughter said the other night that she loves her dad and doesn't want to live without him and just wants him to stop drinking. It makes me wonder if my kids are wishing I would leave but not saying it.
I don't know how much to say to them because I do not sway my kids in any way about how they feel about someone. Meaning I don't down AH or build him up to them.
I would love to hear from people who have left and how it affected them and the children.
Thanks to everyone who has responded. It does help alot.