Originally Posted by
denny57 
Taking the focus off of him (and losing the idea that I knew what would actually be heartbreakingly drastic to him) really helped me separate myself from AH.
How do you do this? I have a really hard time not putting myself in his shoes and seeing how much it would hurt him for me to leave.
As far as the affects on my children if I stay. I honestly can't figure out if its worse to stay or leave. I love my kids so much. I don't want to hurt them. I don't know what would hurt them the most. I know my 13 year old son acts out to his younger brother and when I try to talk to him he just gets angry and says his dad doesn't have any right to treat him that way either but he does so I think my son feels justified in his actions toward his brother.
I feel I am in a no win situation.