I looked into AA after a year and a half of drinking. That's when I was 23. I had to go through so much hassle at home to GET to meetings, I just gave up. I had a husband who was controlling and possessive and didn't want me to have any sort of life away from him or the house. So I just stayed home after much fighting and threats and continued to drink for many more years.
I NEEDED support away from him for my problem. I may not have wanted it but I sure did NEED it. I guess he was my enabeler. Everything was just fine with him as long as I was right where he left me.