Take your power back to combat your fear
If you are staying with your family, there are at least two things you can do to be proactive in keeping everyone safe and taking your fear in hand. 1. Fet the order of protection. It is a legal document that eliminates alot of conversation. It will also make him consider that the consequences will be on him, not you or your family. 2. Be honest with your family. I always said that people didn't understand, If You find yourself saying, "OH, he'd never do that!" You need to know it was usually the next thing he'd do. There may be an ugly confrontation, you can decrease the likelihood of it. If he calls of shows up, call the police immeditely, not after some long winded conversation. It is unlikely he'll come to your parents house, but if he does, pick up the phone and don't answer the door. He'll embarrass you if he can, if he thinks it will work. You should have a plan in place where everyone can sping into action if he shows up, holiday or not. In the big picture of life, so what if he comes and screams in the driveway or bangs on the front door. He can stay away or be hauled off. A restraining order would make it clear to him. Some people think that anything less than a restraining order is encouragment.