irsh!!!!
good evening, irsh. and it can be a good evening cause you are working on it being a good evening.
i personally know many women who have chose to stay with their ah, and are much more happy by attending al-anon and learning to take care of themselves and not worrying so much about their mates.
they still face many challenges that alcoholism brings but are so much more contented with their new found skills for making their lives better.
you are so right about the baby steps....my steps were itty-bitty, teeny-weeny baby steps.....took me forever to make up one respectable baby step....but i kept plugging away and now i've gone maybe......MAYBE.....a whole foot. lol
hang in there, irsh, and keep focusing on yourself.
blessings
jeri