Yeah, I think it's more "doesn't want to" leave than "can't." I think he's afraid to be alone - - and will fall apart if he doesn't have some woman to take care of him, plus he doesn't have a driver's license. (What a winner, huh?!) I think the main thing is he can't stop drinking, and she will put up with his sh*t and drive him around, whereas he knows I wouldn't. "Alcoholism trumps love" is what I heard at an Al-anon meeeting this week.
I don't know . . . I feel like your average non-alchoholic/addict would be too judgmental of my past (messed things up pretty good when I was in my disease) and would prefer a non-alcoholic. Very hard for non-alcoholics to truly understand why we do/did what we do. But yes, alcoholics have a lot of issues, which makes for a disasterous relationship when two of them get together!!!!!