Welcome ! ! ! I too am an enabler and have only been posting for about a week here. The people here are awesome ! They understand and are honest. They keep me grounded. I am married to an alcoholic husband and have an apartment scheduled to be available to me on Oct 14th....but I have been having second thoughts, of course. I go today to talk to a therapist. I need one. My sympathies to you about your parents. My mother passed away in August of this year and I feel like I have been hit by a big piece of steel. I found her unresponsive , they had her on life support for 4 days, and then took that off of her. It took two more days for her to pass.
Read as many posts as you can ! ! I am, and it helps . The stickys at the top are very helpful readings. Suggest some books to read.
Don't forget, you have not caused his problems, he is. You need to look out and take care of yourself. You are the only one that will. You are a strong person that will get through this difficult time.
Talk to you later.