I seem to be a "drunk magnet" myself
I grew up with an alcoholic mother and married a "recovering alcoholic" who went back to drinking after being sober for six years.
I can understand why you may be questioning your judgement at this point. I did the same thing myself. When my ex-husband started drinking again, I felt like I had been drawn back into my worst childhood nightmares.
The best advice I can offer you at this point is the advice that Jill Connor Brown (author of The Sweet Potato Queens books) gives.
And that is...Be particular.
I think that those of us who have spent time being the significant other of alcoholics tend to choose poorly because our self-esteem is so beat up.
So from this day forward...be particular. Choose quality friends, quality jobs, quality men and most importantly...a quality life. Think of yourself as someone who deserves nothing but the best. It's a much better way to live your life.
Welcome to the board. This place is chock full of quality people.
Peace,
Gabe