Ugh. I feel your pain. This is exactly the way my husband was treating me before we split, except I was working full-time and had my own money. On top of my working and looking after 3 kids and racing around to clean the house and do yard work and cook, he did nothing but go to work and then go out with his friends, coming home drunk every night. If we argued, it was because I didn't do enough around the house. THE NERVE!! It still is powerful enough to raise my blood pressure just thinking about it.
I think everyone here has said good things. I venture to add that it IS your girls, your life and life is too short to live it in misery and with hatred.
((((Hugs))))