When I had gotten on the pity pot, I started to build up a selfish...no a Very selfish nature. Rather then vent, I held it all in and stayed on the pot.
Solution...I moved out.
What I found when I moved out...
All my complaints came with me. I still had to cook. I had to now clean. I had to now do laundry. Nothing changed until I changed.
I now do what needs be done and if that isn't good enough for others...they can deal with the things they don't like. I deal with what keeps my space and life at peace.