This sounds like a situation of emotional abuse, in that he is not allowing you access to money and he is constantly putting you down.
However, when you said "There has to be someone out there who will not make me feel this way about myself", it made me pause. There might very well be that special someone, BUT, you need to love yourself. No one can fill the void of not loving yourself and it sounds like that is where you need to start. I was always searching for someone or something outside of me to fulfill me and of course, it never worked. Trying to love and accept yourself can be very difficult, but it will work.