Chip,
Nice to hear from you, it sounds like you have a lot more hope in your marriage than I did. Did I mention, my ex was bi-polar, pretty bad, at that, refused to even acknoledge the possiblity. Everything wrong with the relationship was my fault (Alcohol was not even anywhere near the top of the list, either...lol).
To this day, she will try to drag me in. TG for my wife to be there to remind me to shut it down as soon as it starts.
Keep praying, as we all know, the Lord works in mysterious ways! I'll always be the first to stand by that!
Take Care!
S