Originally Posted by chip
I know I have resentments against my wife. I know I have to let it go. It's hard not to fight back when she attacks me. I feel like she doesn't respect me. I'm not allowed to talk about my day or my problems with her. I know this makes her sound bad, but it's true. I don't feel like I get much emotional support from her. It feels like she makes my problems worse.
Could some of it be that you resent on some level the fact that she CAN drink that beer;even leave half of it. I am not the alcoholic in my family, however when he would be feeling tense/wanting to drink,etc...we all could feel it and react by feeling tensed-up,too. Maybe she is stressed herself? who knows.... I just hope that you continue your sobriety...that is great!
Does your wife go to Alanon? Is she working on her own recovery? In fact, many people I know suggest that Alanon is very helpful in recovery from alcoholism (in addition to AA). Just some ideas.