I have to second the motion that Prettywoman has made.
Start working on you!! You will come out the winner and find peace for yourself. It really does work! When we learn to stop en-abling their behavior things really start changing! You will find a new found strength and feel good about yourself......they see these changes.
Oh and we ALL know the BLAME game and make you feel GUILTY game. They are both very common, but become VERY BORING when you begin your recovery!
Peace,
Constant