so true sis. It almost leaves you dumbfounded when you stop and let them do whatever they want and see that they pick alcohol every single time. So long as you mother, monitor and jail, they will lie, steal and whatever else it takes to get to that drink. My husband sits in the company of complete idiots by his own choice. He spends money, his time, his manners out. I have a sign that sits right over his chair on the porch. "Life is the sum of your choices". HELLO.