Originally Posted by noahsally
! i already know the answers I am looking for.
What are they?
Because my mom lives with me and she wants to continue to help him with certain things I feel like I have to do it in order to keep the peace.
That is a choice and you can choose to do it or not.
I started out thinking I could find the magic cure for getting AH to behave the way I thought was right. To get him "to see the light" or the error of his ways, and how my AH's life would be better if he could just see he should stop drinking. I now understand that is none of my dam* business. He is an adult and can lead his life any way he wants to. It is my choice to share that life with him or not. I chose to not. It all comes down to choices and I am learning I have so many. It's been incredibly liberating.