your question is valid
Meme:
My A would drink to the point of passing out (what he liked to refer to as "taking a nap"). All physical activities, including sex, came to a stop. Wanting to be around people came to a stop. They just seem to become so self-absorbed that they can't function.
What bothered me most was the lack of lovingness (which is not necessarily the same as sex) even when he seemed sober and clearheaded. Kind of like showing emotion or being close with me either scared the heck out of him or was some strange thing he forgot how to do.
Then, if I'd speak up about these issues, he'd say that I was the problem......
It sure can eat away at your self-esteem if you're not aware of what's really going on.