Hi PrettyWoman,
Well girl, I suppose this is a time when you have to make decisions regarding your ex. Like Ann said, you cannot avoid him, especially since he is the father of your babies... learning how to detach from him, without being "roped in" to his game is gonna be difficult.
I was going to suggest sending him an email... perhaps explaining a bit of where you stand etc. BUT... meeting him in person is a much better idea; as long as it is a SAFE place
. Just be strong PW... Keep us with you in your pocket
Take care
Meg