glad to hear you seem to be handling this well.
When my AH was arrested, for me, it was kinda comforting in a strange sort of way knowing he was in a "safe" place.
I also think when I finally forced myself to stop "saving" him and to stay out of his "stuff" I felt more at peace MOST of the time. Plus, I think he hit bottom a little faster. Yes, there are a lot of "I"s in my reply, but I got so accustomed to trying to do for him, do what's best for him (in my eyes), take care of him, that "I" got lost in him and his stuff.
I hope and pray you are feeling some peace and are thinking about YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU!!!!
Love, and have a good tomorrow!