I have a bit of a different view than the others before me.
Call it selfish but yeah I understand what you are saying.
I love fine wine. I can't imagine giving up something I enjoy
because of someone else's issues. If my ex fiancee had recovered
I don't think we would have continued on together anyway. I
really don't want to change a part of me that is not damaged.
In the future, partners I choose, will not be A's or recovering,it's
slow going but I will not settle for less for myself.
As far as what others have said...yes, a sober partner is far better
than the bottle of wine or champagne...that's if you really love them.
At this point I am questioning my love for my ex-fiancee.