Karen, I have been thinking about this thread since I last posted and wanted to share something with you. This is the thread containing my very first post on SR
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-confused.html
As you will see, my ex went as far as trying to get backing from strangers on a message board in order to bolster his case that I should be having sex with him. If he was prepared to go to those lengths, you can perhaps imagine the pressure I was under at home.
What I learned through this experience is that when I feel in my bones that something is wrong, then I have to listen very carefully. Sex is a wonderful expression of love and intimacy, passion and connectedness. However, it can also be used as a form of control, power and manipulation. It is in my control which of those experiences I allow myself to be exposed to, and go along with. Again, it's all about boundaries. Physical as well as emotional.