(((KarenM)))-- I haven't read all the responses so forgive me if I'm probably repeating things. I've been through it all too. You are not "wrong" for not wanting sex and I know exactly how you feel b/c during the last few months of our relationship, my Xhusband's touch really repulsed me. There's a Simpson episode where Marge says to Homer, "your hands, they feel like salad tongs." I used to hear her voice in my head when he'd reach for me!! I don't think you should "cave in" b/c of some sense of guilt or false obligation. You are not obligated. It is your body. I just told my XAH "no" and did not really care one bit what he thought about it. I sort of disengaged. At one point he asked me why I was no longer sexually interested and I simply replied, "I can't do it without SOME sort of emotional connection." That was my truth and I let him have it. He said nothing.