I feel your pain. First, don't worry about your daughter. Kids are stronger than we think and as the school year gets on I am sure she will learn to like it. As for as your AH, I can't tell you what to do. Each of us have to make our own decisons. You can be there for him but just not live with him. Encourge him to seek help but don't do it for him. You and your children need to heal and get healthly. If he wants to change he will do it if you are there or not. Think of how well the boys have already adjudsted. Time heals. Please give yourself time.