Lolobug,
Hi, Just something you can think about....Do you realize that it was his behavior Not yours....therefore as I see it, this should not have a thing to do with your pride and self-esteem....His affair says nothing about you what so ever.
Al-Anon's 3 C's says it all.....
You didn't cause the affair
You couldn't control the affair
You could't cure the afair...
I agree with Anns forgiveness must come first before the forgetting comes....
That's just my option and I am stickin' to it....I do hope that you keep looking to find the soluation for you....