Thanks - I guess it is obsessive thinking. But I also keep thinking how can I stay with this man who has done this to me. I am sooooooo hurt inside and feel so betrayed and lonely. I am torn between leaving and wanting to stay and work things out so badly. I feel scared around him because I have been hurt so much by him. I know one day at a time but the thoughts have just been overwhelming the last couple of days. Guess I have fallen into a rut and need to dig myself up and out. I am just still so angry that I have been cheated on. And then, like I said, I think of them together. I feel like if I stop thinking about it then that means that it doesn't matter - that it was okay for that to happen. Is there any way to know that it did matter and it wasn't right but yet leave it alone????? Thanks alot Lolobug