Ill say this, whenever I would go out and take klonopins and drink which are far weaker then xanx. I would black out and literally remember NOTHING at all. NOTHING. and then wake up and here all these psycho crazy things i said and did. Im sure he doesn't remember but its not an excuse to hit you. He needs to make sure he doesn't take that if he is drinking because it is gauranteed to happen every single time he drinks and takes xanax. I was at a casino and got kicked out for calling the dealer a **** and to **** off and told girls boyfriends to **** off shes with me and blah blah just really crazy things..... got kicked out of the casino told the cops off somehow didnt get arrested. i didnt remember any of it. and that was from mixing a weaker benzo and alcohol. like i said no excuse but make sure he doesnt drink and take a xanax cuz for me benzo and alcohol = black out and anger/********.

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I am glad you got away and please stick to your guns, if he has hit you once, he ll hit you again because even if he was in a blackout, subconsciously he has broken a taboo (putting his hands on you) so from now on it'll be ok for him. I have walked in your shoes so I am not just saying...:(
Also you told us that you used to have a problem with drugs and alcohol. I don't know about you but I know that with me, my alcoholism and my codependency walk hand in hand. I cannot ignore one if I want to recover from the other. Going back to him would put you in danger both physically and also of a potential relapse.

He gets nasty too. He has stolen beer glasses from bars, thrown them out the widow while I'm driving.. Tryed to grab my head and push it into his crotch while driving. Calls people **** and *******.. I'm surprised no one has kicked him out he's not discrete. It's just sad he used to be such a sweet guy. This crap has destroyed his person. Glad to hear he's not the only dick when on bentos and booze. I get so embarrassed!

Carlotta, I'm not a big drinker my doc is crack cocaine and I don't use with him. I actually started hanging out with him to get away from the people I was using with. It worked but apparently I ended up with a different problem child . Just my luck!

I tryed to contact him today I'm so stupid!! I'm saying sorry!??? Yeah something wrong with me for sure. I make myself look so stupid. Glutton for punishment. Need to try and do something to get my mind off him and who he used to be. Not this raging idiot.

He changed his meds!!! He gets another chance now. I saw a Paxil on my nightstand next to his phone last night. He actually took my advice and changed his meds although he didn't readily admit it. I'm so proud. I did see a difference in him too.

Omnom,
Go back to the beginning of this thread and read all the way down. Did he become a new man in less than a week? Think it through. It's possible I suppose, but, you guys seriously need to address it together. You deserve that!

I agree. I'm just happy he atleast acknowledged that there was something wrong. That to me is huge. One day at a time.

I too was taking xanax due to extreme paranoia, but when i drink and the effects still havent worn off I get violent, I just had 2 fights with my best friend 2 days in a row, it almost came to punches. and just last night I had drank again after the pills (cus of anxiety) and i kept getting violent and irrational thoughts, its a very dangerous combination and the health issues are very serious, i pooped out a tennis ball size feco this morning, and ive had blood in my stool befor.(from asprin)... it is really NOT a good mix. if your going to get back with your man i suggest he just drinks and throw them damn pills in the trash!!!

Omnom, you've had a lot of responses so you may have heard this from someone else --

I'd say it's 99% likely that if he drank on top of xanax he knew exactly what high he was after. Xanax as prescribed on its own is pretty benign, but mixed with alcohol it can be a pretty powerful combination. People mix anti-anxiety drugs with alcohol for a reason, and he knew he shouldn't, and he did. He put a high over his accountability and your safety, and that's a really bad sign. I'd suggest you drop this guy completely. Don't blame it on the substances. He chose to abuse them.

((Omnon))

I dont belive he was exactly looking for an uncontrollable high, and i dont think he wanted to hit anyone, when your that paranoid and anxious you do everything in your power to take that terrifying expierience away. and drinking will calm you down just like xanax. i dont think it was intenional, if you read my post i had a fight with my BEST friend and Life Mate. and it was totally uncontrollable, when you mix the two substances it seems like everyone is against you. i assume this guy had some sort of mental illness that had some part in the situation.

It's a toss up. He mixed the drugs, and as someone who's mixed drugs, I'm a little cynical about someone who claims they didn't know that it would have an effect. That he didn't know he'd beat someone up, I'm happy to grant. But if he did know that the effects of mixing would be a high, he chose to do that. And no matter what his original intent, I've never bought that people aren't responsible for their actions when high, and courts of law don't buy it, either.