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melski 06-14-2019 07:21 AM

I am back, need help
 
Hi all,
I was doing really well and then the wheels came off.
Too many excuses and too much drama and I need to get back on track.
Please send me good thoughts if you can.
Much appreciated.

Sc0ot3r2019 06-14-2019 07:23 AM

prayers for you. hang in there and be positive.

melski 06-14-2019 07:35 AM

Thank you so much

thomas11 06-14-2019 07:35 AM

Support being sent your way. Dig deep and get straightened out. post often.

PippoRossi 06-14-2019 07:49 AM

:grouphug: Thinking of you. You can do this. If I can, anyone can, especially YOU. Hang in there. It gets better. :grouphug:

fini 06-14-2019 08:53 AM

welcome back, melski. yes, i am sending good thoughts....and you already know it takes more than others' good thoughts:)

Anna 06-14-2019 09:39 AM

Welcome back, Melski! You can do this.

FreeOwl 06-14-2019 11:57 AM


Originally Posted by melski (Post 7206177)
Hi all,
I was doing really well and then the wheels came off.
Too many excuses and too much drama and I need to get back on track.
Please send me good thoughts if you can.
Much appreciated.

the wheels came off?

Or you never fully put them on?

;)

So - whatchya gonna do to put those wheels on nice and tight this time, starting NOW?

What's the plan?

Welcome back.

:grouphug:

melski 06-14-2019 12:42 PM

It sure seemed like the wheels were on.
It is easy for me to fall back into old ways.
It is easy for me to think I can moderate and I do for a while until I don't.
My coping mechanisms, self esteem and self trust need work.

FreeOwl 06-14-2019 01:21 PM

took me a while to recognize that I'd been missing some bolts every time I put the 'wheels on'....

you'll get it.

Take an honest inventory of what worked, what didn't, what gaps you had in your whole sober You....

beyond the not drinking - we've gotta build a new SoberSelfStructure.

:grouphug:

Mango212 06-14-2019 01:54 PM

Welcome back. I'm glad you're here.

What's the plan for today?

Call the AA phone number on a meeting list? Call someone from someone other kind of recovery program? There are many paths and gathering information and healthy contacts can play a big role in recovery. I have many contacts I've never met in person (I'm not alcoholic and am in 12 step recovery). Some of these contacts simply are there to refer back to or check in with from time to time. People like to help others and they get something from us reaching out, just as we get something from them. No strings attached.

Hevyn 06-14-2019 02:42 PM

It's great to have you back with us, melski. You can get back on track for good this time.

fini 06-14-2019 07:47 PM


Originally Posted by melski (Post 7206367)
It is easy for me to think I can moderate and I do for a while until I don't.
My coping mechanisms, self esteem and self trust need work.

yes, it was easy for me to think i could moderate, though my own experience showed me it was not true. yet i wanted to believe next time would be different.
where i needed “work” was in knowing and accepting at the core of my being that i could not moderate, that my drinking would never be different.
that was and is the basis of my sobriety.

Delilah1 06-14-2019 07:52 PM

Welcome back Melski, it’s so good to see you. You can do this!

least 06-14-2019 07:59 PM

Sending good thoughts your way. :)

Dee74 06-14-2019 09:46 PM

some great suggestions here :)
welcome back Melski - let us know how we can help :)

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kinzoku 06-14-2019 11:02 PM

It can happen to any of us. The voice says "hey look how well you are doing" and you relapse.

Well you did. But you are back here where you need to be.

Welcome :)


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