Wanting to drink
 

Coming here was a good idea Lucy. You say you want to drink, but do you really want the hangover, bad behavior, embarassment and shame that come along with it? Because you can't have one without the other remember.

Look at the "halt" ( Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired factories - are any of them a problem? Many times taking care of those things are what really needs to happen anyway. Coming here can certainly help with the Lonely category - stick around.

Hi Lucy

hope these links might be helpful to you :)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-recovery.html

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-cravings.html

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Lucy, maybe you could treat yourself to some ice cream or good chocolate? I hope that you get through this.

Hi Lucy,

Glad you're reaching out. Is there something you could do to relax yourself? I ate shameless amounts of ice cream--that usually took the edge off for me at first. Lots of good suggestions here.

Hang tight, this will pass and you'll feel better for having gotten through it.

Wishing you well. :)

If you really wanted to drink, you wouldn't have come here. :hug: Remember how good you'll feel in the morning if you stay sober. :) And drinking brings misery with it. Please don't drink. :hug:

I am not very good at multi-tasking but I use that to my advantage at times like this. I start thinking of things that I am grateful for because when I do that, I am incapable of being ungrateful at the same time.

If my mind starts to stray off of the topic of gratitude, I gently and lovingly bring it back to the task at hand by being grateful that I know to do this today. I can not control the thoughts that pop into my head, but they don't control me either. Recovery has shown me that I can control my actions, that I am no longer a slave to whatever crazy thought pops into my cranium. I get to choose.

What's bothering you(minus the urge to drink)?.. When I stopped, it helped me talk about whatever BS 'reason'(s) I was wanting to drink 'at'. Like drinking fixes anything...The lame reasons(EXCUSES) kept me drinkng longer than needed.

Hi Lucy,

I’m so glad you came here and posted. Playing the tape through is a great strategy, think how great you will feel when you wake up sober, rather than that depressing feeling of being back to day one.

Try some mindfulness activities. There are lots of apps and YouTube videos you can use. I’ve found centering myself and doing some breathing exercises really helps.

How are you coping, Lucy?

It's already Wednesday morning here, don't know what time it is there - did you get through the night okay?

Hi everyone, I can't thank you enough for reaching out and sending me your awesome replies. I read each one last night. I should have replied last night but I was so mentally exhausted I just couldn't. I'm happy to report I'm on day 43 and not day 1. I was just having a down day yesterday. I was outside most of the day doing yard work, which I love. Then my husband came home and we were organizing the garage together. That's when the cravings really started to hit me. My favorite time to drink is when I'm outside and doing something (I mean really anytime) but romanticizing the "couple" of drinks would not leave my mind. I knew deep down it wouldn't be a couple, but I just couldn't shake it. My husband then went inside to shower and go to sleep, he always goes to sleep before me, I'm a night owl. And that's when the AV really started rolling. I was already planning to leave, go buy booze, cancel my plans today etc. It was scary. That's when I sat down on the garage step and made this post. Then I told myself I would wait at least fifteen minutes for a reply before I made a decision. I then went and showered.

Came out and read everyone's replies. Thought a little more and then realized I am just not in control. I did something I would never do in the past. I woke my husband up and told him how I was feeling and gave him my debit card and told him to take the keys to our cars. He was very proud of me and told me to not ever be embarrassed to ask for help. This was always how I felt in the past. I was too embarrassed to tell him I wanted to drink (he does not drink at all), I always felt he just couldn't understand. I am soooooo beyond thankful for SR, all of you and waking up clear headed and sober this morning. I can't even imagine how I would feel right now if I had thrown my jump start to sobriety down the toilet. Grateful for being sober today.

Man, that is a powerful post, Lucy.

Well done, you.

Wow Lucy, this is so inspirational. I have tried to quit on my own multiple times. This time i am much like you and enlisting the help of my partner instead of trying to hide things.
It is game changing for me. The other side of the coin however is a bit soul baring and sometimes embrassing. I commend you on for doing the right thing for you.
When i finally let him in and asked for his help he actually cried and told me he was proud of me.
Felt really good.
Hope you are having a happy, relieved, and sober day.

remember it's ok to WANT a drink.
but we never HAVE to take that drink.

Lucy, you did good! I'm so happy you reached out. :)

It took courage to ask your hubby for help. I'm proud of you!

This is why we need to arm ourselves with a hefty toolbox. When one plan doesn't work we go on to plan B etc.

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