Hi back again
 

Well I am still struggling with my fathers death eight weeks ago and my Mums imminent death. I don't really know what to say. I am in a world of pain. I am have daily arguments with the care staff at mums home to give her the prn medication that has been prescribed. I really feel like I have nothing left. Still drinking a six pack every night. I am lonely ( living in my dead Dads house) and have no support. I am so sad and frightened, and broke. I just want my Mum to be released from her suffering( end stage Parkinsons) It is a living nightmare. If anyone out there has any ideas to deal with this better. I would appreciate it.

I'm sorry for your loss Sunshine. I am at 'that' age...parents are in the mid 80's. Both have severe dementia....and getting worse quickly. Its just a fact that they, like all of us, will die and sooner than later. I totally hear you, not wanting them to suffer. That is the worst part. I will be moving back to their house next year to care for them, assuming they can still stay in that house. I'm heading there on the 11th to relieve one of my brothers so that he can go on vacation. So, I relate.

I can tell you, for sure, drinking will not help if you are alcoholic. I drank 'over' my husbands death and it just delayed, and screwed up, the grief process. AA is always there as a support. You don't have to be alone unless you choose to.

Hang in there.