Halloween Weekenders Thread 27-31/10
 

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no volunteers this week so just me wishing everyone a Happy Safe and sober Halloween...

If you need support through any festivities, rest assured we're here to help!

Like any holiday there can be a lot of traps and treacherous invitations out there...be smart, plan ahead and if in doubt - sit it out :)

also some general ideas for getting through social occasions here:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...val-guide.html

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Shotgun and thank you D

Shotgun!

Ah, I've missed my shotgun.

Thank you, Dee for the thread!

Congrats on the shotgun, Vinny)

Hi hi hi. ..there must have been a couple milliseconds in the difference. Happy Halloween MB and all.

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Happy Halloween, weekenders!
:Pumpkinwave::ghost

Happy Spooky Candy avoiding weekend all!

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Thanks Dee! Looking forward to some creative energy instead of drinking myself stupid! :Pumpkinsmal: :ghost :Pumpkinlaugh:

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Looks like my Halloween has already started. I've just been at my lawyers' and they told that banks are sueing me. Oh, well.

I've got the next week off! not back to work until Thursday. Big plans are to get the garage cleaned up so I can park the car inside and get some projects done around the house but most importantly, getting ready for halloween night!

Uh oh!

I’m sorry, MB!

You’d think they’d have clued in by now that YOU DON’T HAVE ANY MONEY!

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Yes, Gilmer.

I've expected it to happen any time, but still sucks.

Thanks for opening the thread Dee!

MidnightBlue sorry to read that your banks are being idiots, suing for something that isn't there, ie a pot of money is very foolish. I don't know of course but if it was UK my suspicion would be that they are trying to scare you into paying more than you can afford. I'm sure you will face them down.

While we celebrate all things spooky this weekend the real nightmare for us is drugs and alcohol, lets not star in our own personal horror show this weekend!

Morning all.

MB...very sucky. I’m sure sorry you have to deal with this.

I have no plans for social anything this weekend. Dragon, I cleared my garage so I could park just last weekend. I now feel great about my garage. Unfortunately, the stuff just goes from one place to another, so I am more unhappy with other locations. I need to sell/give/junk a LOT of stuff. This is something I don't do well.

Happy Halloween...boo!!

Thank you for kind words, friends.

Unfortunately or fortunately, I don't know how to take it, it's quite logical for banks. A fixed amount of money (50% to be exact) will be deducted from my salary till I pay off my debt. Since I defaulted on money I borrowed from banks it's 100% that the court will make this decision.

Anyway, I have a place where to live, money to buy food, 6 months of gym membership. I'll figure it out. :vd

Happy Hallowe'en weekenders

here's a pumpkin I made a few years ago

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Great pumpkin, Andy!

I'm in for a sober weekend and a sober Halloween -
I used to get very smashed handing out the candy. Those days are over.
I've been away for a couple of weeks and wasn't able to sign in for some reason, so that's the only reason I haven't been around.
midnightblue. ..that's a drag about the banks and the lawsuits but these things have a way of working themselves out. Better you deal with it and get through it so you can move on. It sounds like you're ok and can deal with the payments. Try not to let it mess with your serenity, although any mention of lawsuit is upsetting. You can handle this.
I love the pumpkin, Andy. Mine is sitting on my counter, still uncarved.
and....congratulations to you guys who cleaned out your garages!! I love being able to put my car in my garage. It's like my car has it's own little room....safe and sound from thieves and bad weather.
Ok....have a great day, everyone!
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Well done MB for staying positive and all.
Hello to all the weekenders

I'm in

Sending you support MB--that isn't easy but you have a great attitude and will get through it and come out stronger.

Sort of like boxing a stronger opponent. . .
You learn and get better but get some serious whacks in the process

Shout out to Tetra--how are you?

I'm in for another sober weekend.
HAF - I used to get drunk to hand out candy, too. I'm not sure I'll hand any out this year. I won't be home until about 7 and by then most of the kids will be done. I might just hide after I get home. If I don't turn on the outside lights or the living room light they won't ring the doorbell. My son doesn't like to help hand out candy anymore. So it's all up to me and the dog goes nuts barking every single time a kid comes to the door. I feel kind of bad about this but it's such a pain. There are plenty of other houses in my neighborhood that happily participate.

Gooooood Morning. 7:22 AM here.

Coffee and it's bill-pay day. Yay. ish.

Glad I'm able to do it, and I pray I'll die with ten cents in my bank account.




Yeah. I realize that's not a good life plan. :lol:


Dia de Los Muertos this weekend. Excellent. I miss BigSombrero.

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Marty, you can you can always just put a giant bowl full of candy on your doorstep with a sign that says “One per customer, please!”

That way after the first two kids take it all, the others will know that at least you made the effort.

By the way, Andy, that’s a REALLY COOL pumpkin! :c014:

Thanks for the thread, a great reminder for a high risk time.

The old me would look forward to this weekend for months. Plan the perfect costume, plan the pre-game activities, meet up with friends, go out and not care about safe transportation, avoiding conflict, or the after event hangovers.

For those struggling, recognize the high risk time and MAKE A PLAN!

For me, I'm staying home this weekend and surrounding myself with supportive friends and family. I want to watch scary movies (NEW SAW MOVIE COMES OUT TOMORROW :D) and cook chili, and relax at home. It's been a heck of a long week for me and my couch and lounge chair are calling my name.

Happy Halloween weekend all and stay safe.

One year I saw an ad for a movie called “Chopping Mall.”

I almost died laughing!

I'm in! Heading to Vegas on Sunday!

Did finish the garage job just yet, I didn't expect to. It took a whole summer to get it into the state it's in. Bix, I decide today to throw out as much as possible, I don't know why I'm hanging on to old parts, scraps of wood, card board and miscellanious items. It's all going.

I could not bring myself to write until now. Last Friday I got dragged into my managers office and she said she had received a complaint about me. I wrote about that before. That I was coming in late and some one said that I had become withdrawn and she was worried. I could not sleep all weekend as I am worried that I will lose my job. So I continued on as best I could. She would not tell me who made the complaint but I know.

On Monday I mentioned it casually to my colleagues. The one who I suspect made the complaint was not there. They were surprised and told me that it definitely was not anything to do with them.
I admit I’m struggling and have been for the past while. I discussed it at length with my dad at the weekend and he said “when did this start for you? You always said in spite of the stress you loved your job”. So I thought about it and realized that it began when I got my wrist splint off at the end of August. My father said “that would make sense. The fractured wrist took more out of you than you realized”.

So I got to work a bit late on Tuesday last. Every one was there but the room seemed suspiciously silent.

So one of the girls phones rang and she answered and said “ok great”. So she said “our manager is ready for us now” and every single one of them got up and left without telling me where they were going.

So I was sitting there wondering what’s going on. Then my manager rang me and said “the girls want to talk to me about you. I will send for you in a little while”.

So I was on my own and panicking for about a half hour. She did try to call me when I was in the bathroom. Another secretary from the office across the hall came into me with a sympathetic look and said “you are wanted”.

So I went up and had to sit through a character assassination in that “Kangaroo court” with no previous warnings and no way to defend myself. My hands were shaking. My mouth was dry. I had no clue what to do. Interestingly all of the girls were silent throughout except for the one who I suspect caused all of this. One of the other girls did say that my work for my own consultant has been impeccable at all times. But apparently I wasn’t being helpful enough when one of the girls was on compassionate leave, also I’m too quiet and don’t ask for help when I’m in trouble.

The one who started all of this - her own consultant had been on annual leave for the last 3 weeks. When she goes every thing stops. No clinics, no theatre nothing. When my consultant goes on leave there are “reduced clinics” which means about 30 patients at each clinic. I work for one of the busiest doctors in there and she has had nothing to do for 3 weeks so if anyone had time to help out it would have been her.

So yeah I had to sit and listen to me being criticized. No one likes criticism. However this could have been handled in a much better way

I didn’t know what to do. I suspect people felt sorry for me on Tuesday afternoon as people were asking “would you like a coffee?”

I did not want to go to work at all on Wednesday. I was sitting on my bed fully dressed but I couldn’t make myself leave the bedroom. Eventually I did leave and I was late but you know, if our manager asked me why I was late I was going to say “I was so upset by yesterday that I could not sleep”. I spoke to my dad about it at length and he said “well done for going in. I’m sure it was hard for you”.

The world just does not like quiet people. And I’m sitting here typing on my phone and I remember all of those years when I was living in my parents attic and too afraid to leave the house and even get the bus to town. Imagine that I was once too afraid to get on a bus. Now I get up and go to work no matter how I feel. And my mom often complains about this or that and my dad points at me and says “why are you complaining? We have our own miracle sitting right here”.

I know I am never going to be the life and soul of the party and I hate my quietness. But you know to have to sit and listen to people criticizing the one little thing that you despise about yourself, it’s so difficult.

I have a full time job for a demanding consultant. I will try and be more helpful to others if my actual job does not suffer as a result.

I’ve just lost all enthusiasm for this. I should also say that when this lady’s husband was very ill last year I worked until 9 PM a lot of nights to do her typing.

So that’s my story.

It’s a bank holiday weekend here. I will probably go to my parents on Saturday. At least my dad will be pleased to see me. He bought some steaks for my arrival and I asked him to get the good ice cream. By that I mean Ben and Jerry’s.

I bet if your consultant knew what happend, he'd soon raise a stink with your manager. That was unfair and un-professional to put you up in front of the girls like that.