I'm finding I am much more engaged in life, much more present, and far more courageous. Fearlessly facing reality without the escape of alcohol or other drugs is an epic adventure, and I'm having plenty of fun with it. Sure, I spend more time at home reading, but man, there are some fun and mindblowing reads out there. And I still go to music festivals and hang with the drinkers and trippers, and who would have thunk it, but I have more energy and have as much or more fun than most anyone there. It's an adjustment. Life is better when we are open and inviting.

just ONE more thought:

The cure for this thinking about sobriety being no fun......

IS TO GET OUT THERE AND START HAVING FUN SOBER.

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I could not agree more with this :c011:

This is sooooooo true. Days are better when not hungover. I will every night keep this in mind. It's not worth it and this moment will pass and tomorrow will be worth it. Thank you. Today has been good. No hangover. No cravings. Making plans and planning ahead to deal. Not just winging it. That's when snap judgment fails me.

I fear this too. I read it takes 21 days to make a new habit. Maybe after some time a new since of norm will set in. I totally remember in the past when I quit for awhile there was a period where I felt sorry for myself because I had to sacrifice something that was part of me. Not a good part, just a big part. It's so.much easier to fall back to drinking because it's what is comfortable, not good, but familiar. Comfortable and familiar aren't always positive words. I hope that you find some new familiarity hang in there and keep me posted I will look forward to hearing your experience and holding onto your strength and using it for myself.

Yes I agree with this when I say I'm bored it doesn't necessarily mean with my kids or my family or obligations, I'm hands I'm bored with myself and that I'm using alcohol as an excuse to actually find something instead it's a lot of laziness involved. And it's scary having to tap in deep down inside and figure out what it is that really makes you happy.

Coco,

Imo...what you think is bordom is addiction.

Your av will call it whatever you want...it wants booze.

I drank because it was fri, sat, vacation, off work early, off work late, sad, angry...etc etc.

It is 1 thing...addiction.

Booze is no joke. People kill themselves over this neurotoxin.

Don't toy w this thing. We here all quit because booze was ruining us.

Stay clean it gets better. Drink and it gets worse.

Thanks.

Day two.
 

Two days no hangover. Two days no alcohol. Sleep sucks. So far not hard, but the hardest will be this weekend. This to shall pass.

Cocobeano, I could have written your post (as could have many here). I am replying with one goal in mind, to give you hope.

I too lamented about life without alcohol and how badly it was going to suck. What on earth was I going to do, especially on weekends which entirely revolved around drinking? It was going to be sooooooooo boring!!!!!!!!

In the beginning it's really hard. The games your head will play with you in trying to convince you that what you're feeling right now is what will be forever, and that this is going to be endless suffering are SO untrue.

Think about what that thinking says about us, that our lives are going to be so boring with no quality due to the simple fact that we can't alter our brains with a liquid we pour down our throat.

On the contrary, it's not that liquid that is the cause of your fun, it's that liquid that's leading you to believe you need it in order to have fun.

I can't begin to describe the joy I have found in life once I realized what I just said. Alcohol was not making life fun, it was keeping me from actually truly experiencing life for what it is. It was keeping me from really having what fun is supposed to be.

I promise you, this is true. You will find this out for yourself if you hang in there and get through all the lies addiction tells you. I am sincerely amazed at the beauty of simplicity.

You will see this, I promise. You CAN do this!