Damn this disease
 

Just got a call from a very close friend in AA. 5.75 years sober and he got a second DUI. Classic SLIP sobriety loses its priority. Thank god he reached out and will doing what he needs to to stay sober. Without going into all the gory details but this will screw up his life on so many levels.

My heart is breaking. He let other things take precedence over his sobriety, then a tragedy happened, then a drink.

Folks none of us are immune. At least he is still alive

the Beast never sleeps.

sorry for your friend.

Alcoholism has a lifetime to wait for our one moment weakness

:grouphug:

and God bless

Well.... sounds like he at least came out alive and hopefully didn't kill anyone.

So may this unfortunate turn of events become a milestone that anchors his sobriety firmly from now on.

So awful & sad, MIRecovery. I did the same thing after 3 yrs. of sobriety, but I didn't get back on track for a very long time. I'm glad your friend intends to - and that he confided in you.

Hang in there. I know how shaken we can get when those close to us relapse.

Best wishes for your friend. Let him know even an atheist or two is praying for him.

Thanks atheist prayers count double

What is so scary is I thought he had it. I thought he was secure in his sobriety. I sponsored him in the beginning , I've known him for almost six years.

How is this possible

I'm sorry, MIR. :(

I hope he gets right back on track. Glad he's alive.

I'm so sorry MI. I don't think any of us are immuned. I've always thought that if I can make it 5 years my chances of not relapsing go up. But only if my commitment doesn't wane. I'm glad he's back in the saddle and didn't hurt anyone.

I'm sorry to hear that. That's why we need to be vigilant "one day at a time."

Sorry ro hear about your friend, but you posting it definitely helps me!

So sorry to hear about your friend, and so glad he has you.

It's never dormant and it never dies. It just gets quiet. But it's always there.

Because "alcohol is a subtle foe". :-(

Sorry to hear that :(. But let your friend know that his slip encourages all of us to stay vigilant in our recovery.

Prayers from me too...I'm agnostic, so....if atheist prayers are double, are mine like one and a half? 😜

So sad. And scary. For those of you who are talking about staying vigilant, can you share more about what you mean? And what would vigilance look like? Thanks so very much!

I'm sorry about your friends situation .

Your quote is so true

I relapsed after 5 years. It is very patient.

Now, nearly 6 months up, and have never felt so strong in my sobriety.

Sorry to hear this MI. I hate this disease. A friend of mine was sober 10 years. He was very secure in his sobriety. We lost contact when I divorced as I had met him through my husband. A few years later I was at a get together and learned that he had started drinking again and when being chased by the cops one night slammed his car into a telephone pole and died instantly.

I hate alcohol. I don't care if you have 30, 300, 3000 days or 20 years or more. All it takes is that first drink.

Very, very true. Some of us need walls built where we cannot build them ourselves. Hopefully this tragic event becomes an anchor in his sobriety.

Here is a text I sent him.

thinking of you. Things may look dark but you have many many years ahead of you. I wish I had woke up before I did, but I didn't. I just know I plan on making the most of whatever time I have I am granted. You screwed up, no big deal, so what because you have the things that really count. Close friends, people that love you, your niece and nephews. Find God and he will take care of you during good and bad times. I would trade places with you in a heart beat if I could have my daughter back but that is not meant to be. You can't imagine what a gift those too little boys are until they God forbid were taken from you

You have built a fantastic life in sobriety. That has not changed. You can continue this fantastic life but everything absolutely everything is based on no first drink

Call me today to let me know how you are doing

Love you

This is a perfect response.

Thank you for sharing with us. It's a stark reminder that there is no such thing as immunity.

So sorry to hear this, MIR.

A stark reminder of the need to keep our sobriety 'front and cente'r in our lives.