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Old 06-04-2016, 03:09 PM
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Damn this disease

Just got a call from a very close friend in AA. 5.75 years sober and he got a second DUI. Classic SLIP sobriety loses its priority. Thank god he reached out and will doing what he needs to to stay sober. Without going into all the gory details but this will screw up his life on so many levels.

My heart is breaking. He let other things take precedence over his sobriety, then a tragedy happened, then a drink.

Folks none of us are immune. At least he is still alive
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:12 PM
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the Beast never sleeps.

sorry for your friend.
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:15 PM
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII View Post
the Beast never sleeps.

sorry for your friend.
Alcoholism has a lifetime to wait for our one moment weakness
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:30 PM
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Well.... sounds like he at least came out alive and hopefully didn't kill anyone.

So may this unfortunate turn of events become a milestone that anchors his sobriety firmly from now on.
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:32 PM
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So awful & sad, MIRecovery. I did the same thing after 3 yrs. of sobriety, but I didn't get back on track for a very long time. I'm glad your friend intends to - and that he confided in you.
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:43 PM
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Hang in there. I know how shaken we can get when those close to us relapse.

Best wishes for your friend. Let him know even an atheist or two is praying for him.
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:53 PM
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Hang in there. I know how shaken we can get when those close to us relapse.

Best wishes for your friend. Let him know even an atheist or two is praying for him.
Thanks atheist prayers count double
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What is so scary is I thought he had it. I thought he was secure in his sobriety. I sponsored him in the beginning , I've known him for almost six years.

How is this possible
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Old 06-04-2016, 03:58 PM
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I'm sorry, MIR.

I hope he gets right back on track. Glad he's alive.
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Old 06-04-2016, 04:39 PM
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I'm so sorry MI. I don't think any of us are immuned. I've always thought that if I can make it 5 years my chances of not relapsing go up. But only if my commitment doesn't wane. I'm glad he's back in the saddle and didn't hurt anyone.
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Old 06-04-2016, 04:41 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that. That's why we need to be vigilant "one day at a time."
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Old 06-04-2016, 04:44 PM
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Sorry ro hear about your friend, but you posting it definitely helps me!
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Old 06-04-2016, 06:06 PM
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So sorry to hear about your friend, and so glad he has you.
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Old 06-04-2016, 08:21 PM
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII View Post
the Beast never sleeps.

sorry for your friend.
It's never dormant and it never dies. It just gets quiet. But it's always there.
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What is so scary is I thought he had it. I thought he was secure in his sobriety. I sponsored him in the beginning , I've known him for almost six years.

How is this possible
Because "alcohol is a subtle foe". :-(
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Sorry to hear that . But let your friend know that his slip encourages all of us to stay vigilant in our recovery.

Prayers from me too...I'm agnostic, so....if atheist prayers are double, are mine like one and a half? 😜
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Old 06-04-2016, 09:22 PM
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So sad. And scary. For those of you who are talking about staying vigilant, can you share more about what you mean? And what would vigilance look like? Thanks so very much!
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Old 06-04-2016, 10:33 PM
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery View Post
Alcoholism has a lifetime to wait for our one moment weakness
I'm sorry about your friends situation .

Your quote is so true
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Old 06-04-2016, 10:42 PM
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I relapsed after 5 years. It is very patient.

Now, nearly 6 months up, and have never felt so strong in my sobriety.
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