Depressed and hungover
 

Drank way too much last night, made a fool of myself. I told myself I was not going to drink this weekend, we went away with friends (big drinkers) probably not a good idea, I didn't have a sober plan in place. Drank because I was feeling down and uncomfortable. I really hope today March 27th 2016 is the first day of my new life without alcohol, I don't even enjoy drinking anymore. It makes me depressed, fat, lethargic and anxious, so why do it. I pray I can do this.

Welcome to the family. :) This can be the last time you have to feel this bad. You'll find lots of support here. I hope we can help you get sober for good. :)

Welcome xoxo
Drinking made me all those things too xo
Take it one day at time and make a good plan :)

Hi & Welcome Freshstart :)

You can do this, of course you can. At first it's very hard , but try to stay busy. Say no to picking up a drink every single time. Every day that you're sober is a win! If you need to count hours in the beginning, that works too. You deserve an alcohol free life:grouphug: Yep, you can do it! Stay close, we all have been where you are now.

Welcome :-). You can do this - just take one day at a time.

If I want to be all those things you described all I have to do is pick up just 1 more drink.

You can do it. This is a great place.
Welcome.

Welcome, I'm glad you found us.

Here's the plan link! It's really good! Best wishes for you xo
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html

Welcome Freshstart

Welcome Freshstart!

You will find lots of support on SR. Spend some time reading posts and you will gather insight and tools to support you. The link that Jsbodhi posted is very helpful.

Welcome! Im on day 1 too! We can do this!

Sounds good Jade. I really want to stop for good this time. One day at a time right.

Thanks for the info and support

Just last week, I was in your same position. I'm also just now making that first step to tossing alcohol completely out of my life. You're not alone here.

Sip some water, get some rest, and let your body recover for today. After that, it's time to start assessing your drinking habits and seeing what you have to start changing. Won't be easy at first, I can attest to that, but you'll feel better in the long run. This site is full of great resources and stories from people in situations just like ours, learn from them.

Welcome!

You need to have a plan. "Wishing and Hoping" are not enough.

What is your plan? Advice and support would be helpful

Welcome to SR, Freshstart.

Every time alcohol was in my system, unpredictable things happened. I'm sorry you had a bad weekend. You can get free of it - I hope you'll continue to read & post here.

Welcome freshstart :)

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I find it really exciting freshstart!

I was scared yesterday because I was detoxing and just generally beating myself up for making poor decisions lately but today is a new day and I'm happy we both decided to live a better life!

Congrats on day 1!

Hey there Fresh - I've been there too, believe me. It gets better and better each sober day that goes by.

Do you have a plan for staying sober yet? For me, I do things like eat healthy snacks between main meals, go to the gym and get good work-outs (helps with sleep), listen to inspiring speakers, go on SR and read some of the beautiful posts on here of triumph, struggle, redemption, and realization (and reclamation), and I always have a glass of water with me. When I have that glass it supplants having a can of beer, which was my regular go-to poison.

Welcome to your new life - keep it up!

Welcome freshstart.

Working on a plan is the key. Since you asked about plans here's mine...

I journal a lot that's part of my plan.
I write down every time I want to drink so I notice it and then try and figure out what I'm really feeling.
I've figured out my main trigger is being overwhelmed so I've had to make changes for the better. Minimise, reduce, eliminate stress/stress people/stressful situation/negative thinking etc.

Also i used to drink as a reward, so I've had to change what a reward means, now it's anything but getting wasted.

New triggers pop up too - my child getting bullied at school - I wanted to drink badly - trigger was 'I'm scared'.. And on and on my plan goes :)
I'm getting to know how I live and feel better so now make better life decisions.

Welcome xxxx

What is your plan? Advice and support would be helpful

I'm no longer trying to get sober, I'm in a sobriety maintenance phase. Therefore, it's not as intense as it was in the begining.

Right now, for me the two main components are a few AA meetings a week, and logging on to this website almost daily so that I don't become complacent. I also play competitive tennis 3 - 4 times per week which helps with stress and I've also meet a ton of people who are physically active and take care of themselves (so, I guess that's a different peer group).

In the beginning I did a lot more of the above (except the tennis) and read as many books as I could on alcoholism and recovery stories. I also did some outpatient group stuff for awhile. And, I joined one of the monthly sobriety groups on this website which I would highly recommend.

You can, you can, you absolutely can.

This might turn out to be the best weekend of your life if you make it your turning point. Look how much you learned -- hanging around drinkers isn't good for you right now, always need to have a sober plan, and it wasn't even enjoyable!

This is all solid, solid information you can use to your advantage next time. Knowledge is power. You can do this.

if I may jump in, there are some great ideas on plans here:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html

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