Day 5: Freaking Out What am I going to do this weekend? I need a plan! Help!! |
I haven't gone a Friday without wine in so long that I can't even remember. What the heck am I going to do when I get home?! |
Its a test and the only grades are pass/fail. I refer to it as breaking the cycle. And its hard, but achievable. BREAK THAT CYCLE. Try not to freak out, stay calm, even bored. Just don't drink no matter what. Tomorrow morning will be your reward. Wish you the best. |
Ideas you could try. A) Read a book B) Watch a movie C) Have dinner with a friend D) Go to a AA meeting? E) Call someone and talk F) Hang out on SoberRecovery Forums/Chat Rooms I know from experience that the early days (like day 5) are tough. But you CAN get through them. Posting here is a good idea. What are YOUR thoughts on what you can do tonight? The plan is yours, you need to keep adding to it. You don't HAVE to drink tonight. Or tomorrow...OR the next day...Etc SR has your back. Stick around here all night if you need to! :grouphug: |
I'm going to have a mental breakdown. I just know it. I want to go out and sing tonight but I can't find a sober friend to go with me. :( Of course, none of my "other" friends want to not drink. |
Originally Posted by secretchord
(Post 5621441)
What the heck am I going to do when I get home?! It would help, maybe, to schedule out your entire weekend, hour by hour, if need be, to account for your time. Be too busy to drink. Stay distracted. Second, make a plan for what to do when the obsession to drink strikes. Most urges don't last long. So you can walk around the block, wash a sink full of dishes, listen to your favorite song. And there is always SR. Things not to do:
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
(Post 5621473)
NOT DRINK. It would help, maybe, to schedule out your entire weekend, hour by hour, if need be, to account for your time. Be too busy to drink. Stay distracted. Second, make a plan for what to do when the obsession to drink strikes. Most urges don't last long. So you can walk around the block, wash a sink full of dishes, listen to your favorite song. And there is always SR. Things not to do:
Tonight I really want to sing. So I might go out to the bowling alley and sing some karaoke maybe by myself because I apparently have no sober friends. Tomorrow is Halloween. I will carve the pumpkin with my son, clean the house, do laundry, read, and then take him trick or treating. After that I'll probably hang out in the chatroom here. Sunday is going to be a killer. I plan on going to church. I haven't been there in awhile and I'm sure it would probably do me some good. Then maybe go shopping for a new purse. Then come here. I have alcohol in the house. I have a nice stock of liquor (which I don't usually drink) and about 4-5 bottles of cab, pinot gri, Riesling, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh! |
Come up with a list of other things to do like watch a movie, call a friend, go on here, play with legos. I spent the first few months surrounding myself with people I knew would not be triggers for me as well. |
Pour that poison away & feel good doing it don't think about your weekend think about tonight with your son don't go to karaoke but maybe watch a film with your son think about tonight that's it http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-oct-30th.html |
I recently asked a friend of mine to go out singing with me sober. I've always been there for her in the past with her many issues and so I thought she'd be there for me just this once tonight. Well, her answer was a candid "HELL NO." She's "had a week" and plans on drinking heavily tonight. WTF!?! |
Originally Posted by soberwolf
(Post 5621492)
Pour that poison away & feel good doing it |
Secretchord try not to think about that I want you to try some breathing exercises that help me it really helps 3 Anxiety Breathing Techniques You Can Practice*Anywhere - Self help for anxiety - Another thing that really helped was venting stay talking to us try to remain calm and pls pls try those breathing exercises Forget karoke tonight pls Stay online you got us you got your son your not alone Oh by pouring away that alcohol you strengthen your sobriety if you don't feel ready think about why is anyone ever ready ? You can do this |
Originally Posted by secretchord
(Post 5621496)
Oh boy. I don't think I'm ready for that yet. Baby steps.... Right? For tonight draw up an IRON clad plan to NOT drink tonight. Just for tonight. If you're willing to share about it, i'd love to hear it! :) All the best. |
Originally Posted by Findingtheway
(Post 5621506)
Can i ask why the hesitation? Wine is expensive. I'm in such a mind trap. Ugh. |
I can relate. But at the end of my drinking it caused me NOTHING but pain and misery. Expensive or not...I had no use for Alcohol anymore. Again, you have our (MY) support. And i hope you have a wonderful (Alcohol Free) weekend. We're here if you need us. :) |
Originally Posted by secretchord
(Post 5621437)
What am I going to do this weekend? I need a plan! Help!! |
Originally Posted by secretchord
(Post 5621509)
Because I kind of want to drink again some day. I know you can't get your mind around never drinking. But if you think that one day that you can drink...then one day you will. Hope for your sake that one day isn't today. |
Originally Posted by secretchord
(Post 5621509)
Because I kind of want to drink again some day. |
Originally Posted by secretchord
(Post 5621509)
Because I kind of want to drink again some day. |
Doggoncarl! Ya beat me to it! :) |
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