Haunted by regrets?
 

Then you should check this out: Kathryn Schulz: Don't regret regret | Talk Video | TED.com

Thank you Zero

Thanks, zero!!!!

Thank you Zero, this is just what I needed to see today!

Nice post!! :)

This is good. I can't wait to listen to the whole thing.

I love ted talks and I'm haunted by regrets. I'm going to watch this as soon as I get home.

This was great!

I agree , good one!

Thanks for sharing that!! :)

Thanks, Zero. This helped me :)

This is fantastic. ..very profound and moving. It was very helpful for me - thank you!

Helped me, too. Cried like a baby.

It has never dawned on me to laugh at my excruciatingly painful regrets. I laugh at everything, but I don't know if I cam gen up enough imagination for that. I just have to keep chanting the mantra "These things have formed me into the person I am today."

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That was just amazing! Thank You!

I think this applies differently at different stages of psycho-social development. I'm at that stage where I'm transitioning from middle age into feeling suddenly frail, which brings on a lot of reflections about major life choices. The mistakes I made in my youth are easy to forgive, except the ones that had lasting consequences. Education and career path has become a tough one for me. Combining sports and intoxicants have also taken its toll on my body. "These things have formed me into the person I am today." I like that thought when I'm feeling okay, but when I'm a mess it doesn't help so much. Keeping a sense of humor doesn't always come easy.

What I liked about the talk was that it gave me permission to be mindful of the regrets, to feel them, and to accept them rather than fight them off. "No regrets" really isn't a good motto to hammer into people. Regret and then move on...

Well said, Zero. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and insight.

I have to live with a rather heavy weight of a regret that involves my mother's death, so this has helped me a bit.

Don't get me started. My mom regret is mixed with guilt and complicated grief. Short story is she was drunk, I abandoned her, and she died. Could I have done anything? Probably not. Did I need to protect myself? Probably. Do I still feel bad? Hell yes. And she passed 20 years ago. I don't know if we ever really shed the weight or just learn to live with it. I do the mindfulness thing. The memory comes up. I say there it is again. I observe it. Feel it. Remind myself to be compassionate to myself. Let it pass. Keep breathing. Move onto the next thought.

I have lots of regrets just like we all do. Almost all of them happened because of drinking, blackouts, hangovers.

One of the main reasons I don't drink anymore is so I don't have to make any new regrets. Sober regrets will happen but they will happen with a rational mind and will probably go down in frequency by about 95%.