always been there
 

I grew up in a big family, father drank, i started drinking at a very young age, smoked more pot in the early years. didnt do much drugs, alittle cocaine for a few years a long time ago, quit smoking pot over 20 years ago and cigarettes over tem years ago. still drink. I consider myself a binge drinker. I do ok for a few days, weeks, then I buy a bottle and drink till I'm down. I am trying to get it under control. I would like to quit.
However, I have a husband that drinks nearly every night, he drinks a whole bottle of vodka most nights. a fifth of vodka. I married my father. I have tried to talk to him about how often and have asked him to slow down. He has sleep apnea and snores and his drinking makes it worse. About a month ago, i asked him to sleep in the another room cuz I need to get sleep. I work and lately I have developed insomnia, I need sleep. At first I slept in the other room, but then I asked him to sleep in the other room if he is drinking. (Very hard to sleep with a person with sleep apnea and passed out) Now he sleeps in the other room every night, still drinks, drinks more now.
I sometimes feel like a hypocrite when I complain about his drinking cuz I drink too.

Hi and welcome sisterbobby :)

You'll find a lot of support here. There's a lot of our members who've had to deal with drinking spouses when they're trying to deal with their own drinking problems.

I'm glad you've found us :)

D

Welcome to SR youl find a lot of support here sisterbobby

Hey, Sisterbobby. Welcome to SR! Thank you for sharing what you're going through. I can only imagine how tough your nights continue to be. I look forward to other members with similar experiences offering you something that truly benefits you. I sincerely wish you the very best.

Welcome to SR.

You don't have to drink anymore if you don't want to. Lots of ways to get to happy sober living. Keep posting and reading here and we can help you with that.

Your husband is beyond our control - and yours - unless he wants to stop.

I have sleep apnea, and drinking used to enable me to sleep through the apnea. That's why drinking makes the snoring worse - the drunk sleeps through it instead of waking from it. However, there is a much better way to deal with it, and I sleep great since I quit drinking. I can provide additional info about my experience with this if you want it.

Be well, and Merry Christmas! :ring

Hi and welcome to SR! My best advice at this point would be to focus on your own sobriety right now. as Nonsensical said, your husband's drinking is beyond your control right now. He has to quit himself. It may be difficult to quit when someone else in the house is drinking but itt can be done.

a ton of help offered
 

Sounds like you both could use some help with your drinking issues.

There is a ton of help offered out there

Anything sound good to you ??

M-B

Welcome to the Forum sisterbobby!! :wave:

thanks for all the support, i was surprised to see all the replys, someone really does care:You_Rock_
quitting drinking well not be easy, every time I wake with a headache i get mad at myself. I got home last night from work, my husband was passed out on the floor, happens quite often. Merry Christmas! I grabbed the bottle and had a few drinks myself. Feeling sorry for myself, I quess.
I love my husband but I do not see growing old with him. Drinking like he does will put him in an early grave, or maybe not?

Welcome, Sisterbobby, to SR.

You are not alone. As you read around the threads, you will find other members who are seeking sobriety and also living with a spouse who drinks.

It is possible to achieve and maintain sobriety despite a drinking spouse. It adds another element to your challenges but not an insurmountable one.

SR is here for you. Lean on us.

How long does it take to feel better after you stop drinking? I feel like crap. It's been 14 days and I feel so depressed

When did you stop drinking, Sisterbobby?

It takes time everyone is diffrent whats been happening ?

Your body is going through some major adjustments.

Early sobriety is an emotional roller coaster; a true range of emotions (from highs to lows) are very common.

You should speak with your doctor about your depression, though.

at least give it a month and see how you feel then

MM

two weeks ago sunday, I feel great going to work, no roller coaster there, but when Im home i just dont want to do anything. sit and watch TV, just stare at tv

Be very kind to yourself, Sisterbobby. You truly are in an adjustment period.

Would reading a book provide any relief - nothing too deep or requiring too much concentration?

Warm soothing baths can change perspective as can an easy walk.

I do have many stressor in my life, but nothing seriously terminal. My son moved to Tennessee and daughter (professional student) getting married here in a few months. Just got over negotiating a land contract between siblings. I have a great job. Make good money. I should be happy. I think the longest I have gone with out drinking in 26 days and I felt nothing, just a big nothing and wanted to do nothing...



Thanks Soberleigh, I will try to be kind to myself, i like that advice...

I have been thinking about going to an AA meeting, however, my father drank, so should I go to An Anon meeting?

why not both if you feel you have both personal and family issues with alcoholism?

D