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Fly N Buy 11-07-2014 08:50 AM

I talk to myself out loud....how about you???
 
Before I posted this hit King Google to check and see if my sanity was more off kilter than I suspect. I was glad to read this.....

Talking with yourself not only relieves the loneliness, it may also make you smarter. It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you’re contemplating. There’s just one proviso: You become smarter only if you speak respectfully to yourself.

Whew! :)

When I drank, I believe I did this more - but really not certain. Regardless, I do talk out loud to myself. I think it does help clarify things, and I am by myself frequently/daily at certain times. By nature, I am a gregarious individual and simply like to talk - for better or worse.

So, though I'd throw this out to the group: Do you have chat's with yourself, do you find it healthy and has talking aloud / alone increased, decreased or stayed consistent after sobriety?????

Friend I confided in stated as long as I wasn't hearing responses I was probably normal :)

YOU>>????
Flyn

Coldfusion 11-07-2014 08:53 AM

I never talk to myself. Just ask my cat.

Fly N Buy 11-07-2014 08:55 AM


Originally Posted by Coldfusion (Post 5001847)
I never talk to myself. Just ask my cat.

HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! Classic!!!!!!!

ThatHombre 11-07-2014 08:57 AM

I never talk to myself out loud but the voices in my head do!

Seriously, yeah, I do.

Haterade30 11-07-2014 08:58 AM

I only find myself talking to myself when im either cussing out the car that just cut me off while driving, watching a football game, or when I see a ridiculous commercial that strikes a nerve and I just have to blurt out something! LOL. Im always alone when these things happen so I never get embarrassed, but most of the time they are not positive statements so Im not sure im getting any smarter. LOL.

JT0626 11-07-2014 08:59 AM

OMG, I am a chatter box! I talk to myself like all the time!

least 11-07-2014 09:00 AM

I talk to my dogs and cats. Does that count? ;)

Arbor 11-07-2014 09:01 AM

Absolutely. Always have. Not sure if it's more often now that im sober. I also work pretty much alone most days out of the week, so it's either singing to ones self or just chatting away to me and the trees. All positive.

Mrrryah1 11-07-2014 09:04 AM

I talk to myself out loud CONSTANTLY!!! :P

I'm sure my surrounding co-workers think I'm a nut job!

Unfortunately, I also do a tonnnnnnnn of negative self talk :( Pretty mean to myself actually. Something I need to work on big time. Stuck in the bad habit.

GracieLou 11-07-2014 09:14 AM


Originally Posted by JT0626 (Post 5001866)
OMG, I am a chatter box! I talk to myself like all the time!

This is me too!

I also talk to the dog, the cat, my plants and the TV. I talk in my car and in my cube at work.

I used to think it was the case of the drunks but I still do it and I think I do it more now then when I drank!

I ask my cat how her day was and when she meows I take that as conversation and we have a chat! MY BF thinks I am crazy!




Originally Posted by Flynbuy (Post 5001844)
Friend I confided in stated as long as I wasn't hearing responses I was probably normal :)

For me, this is yet to be determined! :herewego

Fly N Buy 11-07-2014 09:14 AM


Originally Posted by Mrrryah1 (Post 5001874)
I talk to myself out loud CONSTANTLY!!! :P

I'm sure my surrounding co-workers think I'm a nut job!

Unfortunately, I also do a tonnnnnnnn of negative self talk :( Pretty mean to myself actually. Something I need to work on big time. Stuck in the bad habit.

Still really proud of you today!!!! Keep up the hard work, please. YOU are so worth it!!!

GracieLou 11-07-2014 09:17 AM


Originally Posted by Mrrryah1 (Post 5001874)
Unfortunately, I also do a tonnnnnnnn of negative self talk :( Pretty mean to myself actually. Something I need to work on big time. Stuck in the bad habit.

I have done this, we all have.

Would you say the things you say to yourself to a friend or one of us?

Talk to yourself as if you were helping a friend in a bad place or encouraging someone here on SR. It helps to break the habit.

Mrrryah1 11-07-2014 09:25 AM


Originally Posted by GracieLou (Post 5001888)
I have done this, we all have.

Would you say the things you say to yourself to a friend or one of us?

Talk to yourself as if you were helping a friend in a bad place or encouraging someone here on SR. It helps to break the habit.

Omg - I would NEVER speak to another human being the way I speak to myself. It's crazy to think about.

Not even my worst enemy.

Although I am probably actually my own worst enemy.

fastfocus 11-07-2014 09:28 AM

I talk out loud shout out random sayings wash my hands constantly, loads of mental stuff

but I don't drink :c029:

Carlotta 11-07-2014 09:30 AM

I talk to myself too. More often than not to give me a little encouragement like:
Come on, let's do it!

GracieLou 11-07-2014 09:33 AM


Originally Posted by Mrrryah1 (Post 5001899)
Omg - I would NEVER speak to another human being the way I speak to myself.

You are a human being. You matter! :hug:

Speak and treat yourself as though you would treat a friend.

FreeOwl 11-07-2014 09:36 AM

all the time.

I think it probably started when I was a child... being an only child often meant talking to myself or talking on behalf of make-believe characters in my make-believe worlds....

One interesting thing is becoming more aware of WHAT I'm saying to myself. Both out loud and in my head....

Sometimes without even paying attention, the words and the messages are unnecessarily critical, even kind of cruel.

desypete 11-07-2014 09:42 AM

i am just thinking about starting up a fellowship of men and women who talk to themselves how can we ever stop this ? : )

desypete 11-07-2014 09:43 AM


Originally Posted by desypete (Post 5001927)
i am just thinking about starting up a fellowship of men and women who talk to themselves how can we ever stop this ? : )

i agree with you : )

GracieLou 11-07-2014 09:46 AM


Originally Posted by desypete (Post 5001927)
i am just thinking about starting up a fellowship of men and women who talk to themselves

:c011:

TA? Talkers Anonymous. Hmm...All that talking would probably nix the anonymous half!

I just googled talking to yourself and it says it is healthy as long as it is in a positive manner.

"Whether you’re living by yourself or living with others, you’re always living with yourself. So don’t leave yourself out of the equation."

Where every you go, there you are!


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