Need Advice
 

Today is day one after drinking again. I went two weeks this time, but I have drank more times than I could count. Again, I tried to hide my drinking from my husband, but he found the empty beer cans in the garage. He is not talking to me and again and is leaving for his night shift. I told him before he left that I joined SoberRecovery and he told me that he does not care anymore; in all fairness, I have sworn off drinking many times before. I do not have anyone I can talk to as I no longer have close friends. Any advice would be appreciated.

You need to build a network of people. You might be best to go to physical meetings.

Most people here have experienced that feeling of shame and feeling they have disappointed others, it hurts inside. How about you just start the day afresh and try not to beat yourself up. Give yourself a hug and be kind to yourself. I found it impossible to heal inside while I carry around that self hatred. Just baby steps and do something different today. Let us know how you are doing. We all understand x

You will find lots of support and understanding here. We do know how hard this is.

I was like you and had made failed promises to my husband many times till he had given up. The thing is, each time you relapse it is harder physically and mentally to get back at it again. I hope you make you make this the beginning of your recovery.

Welcome, goody :wave: Glad to have you on board.

Your husband will come round in time, but you need to show him that you're serious and you can only do that by staying sober. My partner was disbelieving for a few weeks when I (finally) gave up. He is now very, very proud and extremely supportive, but I had to earn that.

If your husband doesn't have a drink problem himself, he will find it impossible to understand and could well be very frightened, too.

Show him that you mean business this time - and let us support you while you do it :grouphug:

Welcome Goody - you will find support and ideas here :)

It really helped me to draw on the communal strength I found here - it stopped me from, drinking more than once :)

why not join our Class of June support thread?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ne-2014-a.html

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It's not just him who is disappointed in you... You are as well. Prove it to him but more importantly prove it to yourself that you can do this. Good luck.

Hi goody. I'm sorry you're going through this rough time, but being among friends who understand will help. Hold your head up and make a new start - we know you can do it. Don't let anyone make you feel defeated. Glad you are with us. :)

Thank you HeadLump. What you said has made me feel a little bit better at a time when I feel just awful!

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Thanks Hevyn for your very kind words of encouragement. Feeling a bit better now because of them!

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the signs are there
he is very tired of you and what you are doing
don't take this lightly
many do and before they know it, it's (way) too late

this site is great
but
you may need more than this site so as to stay sober ???

I would find some local AA meetings ((fast))
get a homegroup
and
attend often

treatment may also be a good option

seems that the road sign is there for the reading
but
you need go no further down that road

MM

Thanks to All
 

Thank you all for your quick responses and solid advice. Feeling more connected to people who truly understand where I am coming from and where I want to be.


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Excellent advice!