First off, UO, in my opinion, alcoholism isn't a character defect. Oh yes, I had/have many character defects and some of them contributed to my addiction, but alcoholism is a disease.

Why do think you need more time? I would be quite sure that your AV is giving you that line. In the face of treatment, your AV is going to be in the forefront doing whatever it needs to survive. Recognize it.

You are so blessed to have a family that is standing by you. And, believe me you won't be getting things handed to you. Stopping drinking and Recovering will likely be the hardest work you do in your life. Embrace your family's support and stop drinking.

BULL-ony

Under-O, you can't fake it any more, it's time to shake off this underlying depression you have from drinking and walk out of the dark suffocating closet you put yourself in.

thankfully you have parents and support...you know that many do not. can you imagine how awful it is? to NOT have anyone who cares?

keep posting and please don't drink tonight.

I can't stop I've tried that's what detox will be for so I'm going to enjoy my last few drinks while I can, because the fun comes to an end tomorrow

Do yourself a favor and just throw the booze out right now. Detox sucks and you might as well start and get it over with. That is where I am right now and I am miserable. However, I know that this will pass and then the real battle begins. I too have tried AA and don't really like it so I guess that is another reason I am giving this a shot. While some meetings are nice and even kid-friendly, most the time they stress me out more and bring on cravings. I don't have a lot of friends or family but my eight year-old son is a real sweetheart by writing me little notes not to drink and throws out any booze he finds. I've been working around this the last month and I am not proud of it. The worst part is having him miss out on stuff cause I am too drunk or hungover. For example, he would miss Judo tonight if it wasn't canceled because of snow. Just remember that we are all here for you and are proud of the way you want to better yourself. Blessed be.

My daughter used to pour bottles down the sink when I was asleep and look after her little brother. It all started when she was around three, but stopped when she was nine and it wasn't too late. We have a great relationship now.

Kids are too cool. I almost got mad at my kiddo one time he did it but I reminded myself I told him to do it. Another reason I want to quit is because it's going to be hard enough raising a teenager and I don't want him hating me anymore than he's going to. Right now he's sound asleep on my bed. This stresses him out too....

honestly is the easiest thing to remember.....I bet your family will support you and we will too......keep us up do date!

UO...more time for what??? To drink??? Wow....life is SO much better sober! Singledad...and others...about kids...I got sober for the first time when my girls were about 4 and 6....but this was after the HOUSKEEPER was hiding my booze (in hopes that I wouldn't drink...I guess...ha!) Never hid my alcohol. Actually was sober until my oldest was in her senior year in high school. Then relapsed. It was rough on them...but, thank goodness I didn't "stay out" long before getting sober yet again. Teenage years REQUIRE a sober parent...LOL...all the best!

I just got out of detox, now looking at 5 weeks of outpatient.

How do you feel UO?

stressed, confused, craving drugs/drink, scared about what lies ahead, but I had a good detox. It's like I'm learning how to live again, it's like I'm learning how to do **** sober

It does get better. All you have to do is try and remain sober. Some days I could scream, cry grieve and life is a bummer, but it passes and other days life is wonderful

I promise you it will get better if you stay clean and sober. :hug:

wishing you all the best UO.
Keep posting and reaching out :)

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u can do it!

Actually, very glad to hear the last sentence...and the other stuff is normal ;) Fear is a very real and common characteristic of many alcoholics....and sometimes drives us to drink....BUT....you can do this...and it definitely DOES get better!:c011: