Skr, just a quick response, will write more later. I really don't think at this point in his recovery he knows what he actually wants. Certainly not a life changer such as breaking up with you, a relationship of over 5 years. It seems to me, although, I know very little about you or your relationship, that he might have said that in anger or frustration. Probably, he didn't mean it when he said that to you. You know how we say things in the moment that we wish we could take back. I just know that it is not advisable for addicts to begin or end a relationship in early recovery because our brains are not functioning to their full capacity and we are not in control of our emotions. It is said that we shouldn't make any life altering changes except those that would keep us moving toward recovery. Just think about it, we, addicts, have been putting substances in our brains that have caused damage to them. It takes time to heal. With time, therapy, abstinence from drugs etc are brains will hopefully be restored. That is why I am requesting you to give him time to heal.

If you don't mind my asking, how long has your bf been an addict? Was it before you met or after? What part did you play in his addiction? I don't mean did you buy him drugs or use with him? I am assuming that you did not. I am asking if you ever enabled him during his active addiction? Loan him money, pay for his living expenses, car payments, tickets, drive him places, help him through any legal and or family problems resulting from his addiction? Also, you mentioned that he hit rock bottom, what was his rock bottom? How did you help him during that

Although he isn't using heroin, which is great, he is still under the influence of a very powerful narcotic.

I'm not sure what dose he is taking but when i was using methadone i was confused alot of the time and i was easily frustrated, which made me angry and it did cause alot of pretty bad fights with my husband.

I couldn't see that at the time. I've been off of methadone for a little over 3 years now and i can definitely see how it changed me.

go easy with him. Also when i was at the clinic, it was mandatory that i saw a counselor at least once a week.

Maybe that would help :)