I want to draw on a similar experience.... I am gay... I am not obvious in appearance or manner... So when I met and befriended someone we were friends for months. I never brought that up as it was not something I wanted to share. When he did find out he felt betrayed. He could have handled me being who I was just fine. But not that I never said it upfront.

While not the same for sure I was stunned by that experience. I never considered that view. I never forgot that feeling I had when he reacted that way.

With drinking i hide out of shame... Maybe guilt or what ever reason. It just not easy to tell someone. To hear the words come out of my month out loud is an odd feeling.

But to this day... While I don't still feel the need to have that out front of me I realize that I may need to say things upfront. At least to those that matter most.

I guess I may also now have to with drinking. It makes both a little easier to deal with I guess.

All my best to you and hope she comes around to stay with you.

Ken