I am starting over again
 

I am not a newcomer I have been here before, I am 3 days sober today, after hitting a really bad bottom sunday. I put my kids in danger and my life. I made some really bad choices while under the influence, but God gave me another chance and I am not going to use this chance to get clean and stay clean. I have failed before, but I am going to try hard this time. I have to or my husband is not giving me another chance. I keep telling myself I am not a bad person, but I feel awful about what I did. I belive God was with me and gave me this chance to make start living right, this was ahuge wake up call. and I probly dont have to many chances left

I hate to say it..But welcome back...Hopefully the last time....What have you tried and not tried in the past...To stop for good?

I am day 3 as well!!! Good luck in your sobriety!!!

If God gives us another chance, it's really undesirable to ignore it. I truly believe He has works He wants each of us to accomplish. He gave you another chance to do that. Embrace it.

And above all, don't make any decisions that may put your children in jeopardy. That's never what God wants, and if we think carefully and even pray on our decisions, we will very rarely be led astray.

This can be your LAST DAY 3 EVER!

Double Post. My bad. Silly Comcast internet.

I personally had to want sobriety for myself.

"frothy emotional appeal" from my husband did not work.

I have about 14 weeks and I go to AA every day, sometimes twice. You have to be willing to do some work to stay sober. At least that is my experience.

Igottobe - Maybe that was the push you needed to really convince yourself. I had to be shown over & over that I had no control over what happened once I picked up that first drink. Thankfully, we both made it out alive - and you can make it stick this time.

You never have to feel this horrible again - here's where it can stop forever. We're here for you.

Well there you go! You have choices and 3 days ago you chose a new way of life! Congratulations on that!! And no, your not a bad person albeit until 3 days ago you did make a lot of bad decisions. Glad to hear you're committed!

My motto: I will never drink again. I will never change my mind.

Glad you're here!

I'm glad to see you trying again, especially after reading your past posts.

Is there some rational reason why after all that you would yet believe you need do nothing but decide not to drink and that it has the slightest chance of working out this time for you?

That's the easiest way of course. But, it appears to be ineffective for you.

If you were to try something more inconvenient than another ironclad and irreversible firm decision then your results might improve, since this time improved results are important to you.

welcome back igottobesober :)

I got a second chance too - I'm still running with that - you can too - we justy have to be prepared to do what it takes :)

There's a lot of support here :)

D

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” Michelangelo

There is absolutely nothing wrong with choosing that easy and simple and convenient ironclad and irreversible firm decision to not drink.

"I will never drink again. I will never change my mind". Sorry I took the easy and convenient way out langkah.

You're not a bad person igottobesober....You're a good person...That like many of us here...Suffer from alcoholism...If you don't like that name...Call it what you want....There are people here that have been where you are...And got out of that nightmare...People that are willing to share with you ways you can too....If you want to talk about this...Maybe we can do something...What you are going through is nothing we haven't seen or done.

Welcome back, if you ever need anything, even just to vent please don't hesitate, I'm here with so many others.

S4MT, whatever is effective in staying sober the rest of our lives is the best possible avenue for every alcoholic, and those I know well do the absolute minimum to live without having to take another drink, though their minimum of continuing effort would likely be considered extreme to you. But, it's worked extremely well for them for 30-50 years so they're unlikely to alter it. Results are what this is about, not preferences.

Since what you did/are doing is working then why feel any need to apologize for your success?

Were I to stay comfortably sober on a lick and a prayer and no action at all then I promise you that would be my path, with nothing more added. It didn't.

When one level of involvement proves to be not enough the reasonable thing is to ramp it up to the next level, and to keep doing that until the results are satisfactory.

Unless you get drunk again your results from your level of effort and involvement is obviously very satisfactory. The OP has been unsatisfied with her results, hence my suggestion regarding seeking something different than what produces the unsatisfactory results for her.

Hope that explains things well enough.

Ummmm, I was being facetious?

But I'm sure everyone who has chosen the same method as me will appreciate knowing that you think we took the easy way out. :) Because it was oh-so easy to just stop. Unlike everyone else who goes to AA - now that's HARD. But us, nahhhhh easy peasy.

Thanks for the encouragemnt, I have had struggled with substance abuse since I was 12 years old. The longest times sober were when I was pregnant with my 2 children. other than that I have drank in moderation at times, then lose control and hit bottom like I did this time. I am committed to not drinking at all this time. I think this is what I needed to push me over the edge. And I thank God for this chance. I know this is a good place to come for support, thanks, I look forward to reading and sharing some of my experiences to maybe help others. Its nice to know I am not alone. and not be judged.

Same here - longest sober was when I was pregnant and nursing. You have the strength to do this! Glad you're here!!

Nobody is going to judge you here...It's nice you want to help others...I think helping yourself should be your main goal right now....Basically...All you have tried is stopping on your own?....Because it's not working...Have you tried a program of Recovery?...AA...Smart...Rational Recovery?

I havent went to meetings and am not closed to that route, just havent went to any yet. I have went to therpy and that helped me deal with some underlying issues, but stopped going when I thought I had things undercontrol. I have always been the person that takes care of everybody else and puts me last. I am working on putting me first more.

What's the holdup?...Can you get to one today??...I drank for 35 years...Lost everything I had...Wife and house included...Damn near got killed by it....I went to a meeting...Followed what they told me to do...And I stopped. You think that might be something you would be willing to try?

when does one turn the corner?
 

What a year it has been. I did almost 100 days in rehab as I drank for too long (I also hoped it would take away some jail time for a 3rd DUI)....
I did the jail time...and came out feeling positive..."if God took me to it, he got me thru it!"...I still go to 4 or 5 AA meetings a week. I worked the steps with a seasoned sponsor who is an inspiration to me.
Now as I close in on 1 year sober, I all of the sudden where I am in life.
I am struggling, not with the thought of a drink, but with life. Things seem to be caving in around me.
I worry a lot about my 'grown children'....my parents whose health is getting worse & worse, my home which I may lose....I lost my license for 10 years!
I do have a job, but it is not covering my costs of living....I find it so hard to be positive.
I pray numerous times a day. I always try & do the next right thing. I know to grow, there is often pain...but it seems to be piling up on me with no end in sight. I try to let go & let God....I just seem to struggle with my new found sobriety...it was so much better years ago....I can't figure it out....

I had to look at things differently...I knew I couldn't stop on my own...What better place to find out how to stop...Then a room full of people...With the same problem I have...That want the same thing I want.....I learned to like it....Now I love it...It saved my fricken life...

Welcome bryangt....Life doesn't change...But you did....That's not a bad thing.

Welcome back, and congrats on 3 days!! The last "2nd chance" I was given was after ignoring LOTS of chances. I had to want recovery for myself, STOP being the one that did everything for everyone, took on their issues, and work on me.

This recovery stuff hasn't been easy, but it's worth it. I don't think I have another recovery in me, so holding on to this one for dear life.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

If you feel like God has given you another chance, then the question to ask yourself is what God wants you to do.

For some people, all that is needed is a firm resolve not to drink. They can quit all by themselves or with some self-help literature. As far as I’m concerned more power to um.

Personally, I have an incredibly strong will but things got VERY bad for me. My will was a part of the problem. I did not feel like God was giving me another chance. I had no God. Finally I came to the point where I wanted expert help! Fearing rehab more than AA I chose the latter. There I found a whole lot of folks who accepted my miserable desperate self just as I was. They had suggestions but they were not pushy. They did not say I HAD to do anything, and I liked that. I did not like some of their suggestions but I was willing to listen. Some had dealt with the same sorts of problems I was facing. Some were available to spend lots of face to face time helping me with those difficulties. I say this because I worked for me. Hope you find something that works for you.

AA's kept me sober for over 22 yrs... it might just work for you too.

Wishing you the best.

Bob R