My wife took my daughter and just left
 

nuf said.

Sorry to hear that, mesh. That's got to be insanely hard on you. Did it just happen? Keep strong and when the time is right, you'll find that plan to make yourself a healthy and whole person again.

So sorry to hear that. Stay strong.

From your other post, sounds like a lot of craziness going on for a daughter to be a party to anyway. Do you think your wife can get her to a safe place away from the chaos until you two work things out calmly? If you're still drinking, being near you is no place for your daughter to be right now.

Focus on getting better right now. Sounds like things are really hairy for you and you probably need some breathing room to calm down and get your head on straight. Any way you could get to a meeting? I know you are agoraphobic but sometimes just sitting in a roomful of folks who all face the problem of stopping drinking just helps.

Much love.

i'm going to stay drunk....wtf i gotta live for?

Live to get your daughter back, even if you can't get your wife back. We all have something to live sober for and your reason is clear; to be the dad you CAN be.

(((hugs)))

i am a joke. want me to be honest. my daughter got a great hug from me,,,,it may be yhe last...i love her. never wanted a kid until my wife talked me into it...now i can see it so clear that i love her!!!

Are you drunk at the moment?

Hi Mesh-

I know you got upset with me on your last post, but do you really think drinking is going to make anything better?

Do you think you can stay sober, just for today? Maybe worry about tomorrow, tomorrow?

What can you do differently than you've done before?

We can and do recover and you can be living proof.

Kjell

Mesh, it does seem that you're probably at least a little intoxicated right now. Have some tea, have something to eat and get yourself into bed for a nap. Your head will be much more clear when it's not full of alcohol.

Yourself and that girl of yours. I'm divorced from the woman I thought I'd be with forever. It was the biggest tragedy of my life—but I'm here, I'm OK now. I didn't get OK with it by drinking; I got OK with it by quitting. And now I can be the dad I was always hoped to be.

Believe me brother, I know the pain. I've been there. If you make this your bottom, then there's nowhere to go but up.

kjell you tipped the cup.

Nope, I just checked and I'm still sober.

...but I can see here I'm in a no-win situation with you, so I'm going to bow out of your posts.

I honestly wish you well.

Kjell

Mesh...
I just shared on your other thread...before I saw this newer one.
Please see if my reply makes sense to you. Thanks.

Mesh, I'm sorry you are having a tough time.

But there is nothing in your situation that can be made better by continuing to drink.

Talk to your Dr about whats going on.

And hold on to the thought that you want to be the best Dad you can be for your daughter, and the best man you can be for yourself.

My thoughts are with you.

Hug

mesh

Everyone here is trying to help - it's what we do. We're all on your side :)

You need to stop drinking.

Put down the drink and get into anywhere you can - Salvation Army ER...wherever.

You can make it back - nothing that's happened today needs be permanent - but you need to stop digging yourself a hole first, man.

D

Yeah, that's exactly what this situation needs: you getting drunk. That's probably the best way to get your daughter back. That's probably the perfect thing to address issues with your wife. That's probably the 1 thing that needs to happen to make everything all better.


...Either that, or it's the worst possible thing you could do.

Now, if you think drinking is the right way to handle this, if you think it will make you feel better (really feel better, not just feel drunk) and make things better in your life, then by all means, please continue.

But if you don't think that, then why on Earth would you do it? So you can cause more heartache for yourself, just to get upset and depressed about that and then go drink again?

Pretty sure you know the right thing to do here, and the wrong thing. It's up to you which one you choose.

Mesh, it's not what happens to you in life that's important. It's how you act on it.
It's your choice.

Drinking doesn't show your daughter how much you love her.