A Public Apology
 

Hi everyone.

I'm the person LaDita is talking about in her thread Lesson learned on SR.

I did say some insensitive things to her. Things that I regret deeply. I meant no harm to her. I was trying to express my empathy but it came out in a really bad way. I didn't see that at the time but I see it now. For that I am deeply, deeply sorry for what I said and I hope that LaDita can forgive me for my ignorance.

I accept full responsibility for what I said.

If any of my friends wish to withdraw their friendships with me, I understand.

If anyone wants to express their anger toward me then that is fine too. I deserve it.

As far as the hot babes thing, that was posted on my page as my interest/hobby. I was trying to be funny by referencing Kip from the movie Napoleon Dynamite. I am sorry for that too. It was wrong and demeaning to women.

I'm sorry to everyone here who I have let down with my short-sightedness.

I want to say that to LaDita the most. LaDita, I am really, really sorry.

Ken

It takes a real man or woman to admit there mistakes.

That was courages of you, I admire a person that can ask for forgiveness when he knows that is actions hurt another human being...

I would definitely be yours and Ladita's friend.

I hope you get an opportunity to make amends.....:You_Rock_

Well done Ken, you the man! Come on kiss and make up:ghug3

Well, if nothing else, I must honestly admit that it takes a lot of strength and courage to come out openly and admit to something you've done wrong. So for that I can have respect for.
Wes

Ken,

This is very hard. I haven't been able to stay sober although I am drinking less. Even through sobriety it is very hard i imagine and some days, you aren't your best. No one is. All I know is that you have supported me through some hard drunk times. And you are understanding that even though i can't stay sober. I want to and I am trying.

I also admire your courage Ken and your apology sounds very sincere.
It is good you owned up to this and hopefully Ladita will see it in her heart to forgive you.
We all make mistakes.

Fubar said it all for me.........

Thanks everyone. I really am thankful for your kind words. I just hope that La
Dita will be ok.

wow....this site is even better than i thought. i'm on several sports forums and have never in my life seen anything close to what i witnessed today.

ladita got on here and bared her soul in need of some support and empathy and to her credit did not mention who hurt her.

everyone supported her. and i do too even tho' i didn't in her thread. sorry ladita.

then ken comes on here and bares his soul and mans up like i've never seen on a sports board and they can get very ugly when you're hiding behind a screen name and nobody knows who you are. that couldn't have been easy ken. and i get the napolean dynamite reference. i have a pretty twisted sense of humor and sometimes folks can't read between the lines on a computer whereas if you were in person they might get it.

i wish you both well. we come on here for assistance not more stress. we usually have that area of our lives covered up pretty well.

i hope ladita sees the sincerety of your apology. since she didn't out you it would have been easy enough to pm her and say you didn't mean to hurt her. but you did it publicly and that says a lot.

my hat is off to both of you. and let us all get one more day under our belts.

Kent- good example of the 10th step :

"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it."

Ken,

I appreciate your courage and honesty.

We know SR is a special and blessed place...and here is proof.

thank you, Ken, for doing the next right thing...

I agree, misunderstandings do happen. You both exhibited courage by being open and honest. I pray for forgiveness and healing for both of you :ghug

Ken,

I accept your apology and wish I hadn't reacted so severely.
I think I might be alot more fragile than I thought while sober.
I am ok, just resting. This really made my day.

Thank you.

We all make mistakes, we're all quite fragile. We're human :) I think it's great that there's so much openess and emotion here... sometimes it feels icky, sometimes it feels great. At least we're feeling something !

Your not alone (should be the theme of this board I reckon). I pissed a few people off my early days here, made a few others uncomfortable. I try just to post on threads or to people when I have something positive/encouraging to add.

This situation bothered me all day, I feel so much better now. Thank you, both, for your openness and willingness to forgive.

Good work, both of you. ;)

Whew...and awsome.

Humility, forgiveness, grace and restoration personified.

Strong work both of you.

Thanks again everyone.

My hope is that all people will be as forgiving as LaDita. This world is so full of people who rush to judgement without considering all the facts. What LaDita has done here is make this world shine once again. We can all learn a lesson from her.

Thank you LaDita for this gift you have given to me. If you would still like to be friends with me....I will.

Ken

And in your honesty and your willingness to admit your mistake and to seek forgiveness, you have polished that world to a gleam, right along side LaDita. My heart still aches for LaDita and now it goes out to you too, Ken. We are all so fragile and so flawed, are we not? Thankfully we have each other as we learn the process of how to mend and how to be mended.

I couldn't agree more. :)

If we turned our backs every time we #$%^ed up we would be missing the point. Peace with you and best wishes!

Dear KenL,
I am sorry you got beat up in the other thread. I am sure you didn't mean to hurt anyone, and I am sure you feel like dog poop now. Heres an e/hug from not so sunny california, and a joke to cheer you up:


First Time Cussers
A 6-year-old and a 4-year-old are upstairs in their bedroom. "You know what?" says the 6-year-old. "I think it's about time we start cussing." The 4-year-old nods his head in approval. The 6-year-old continues. "When we go downstairs for breakfast I'm going to say hell and you say ass."

"OK!" The 4 year old agrees with enthusiasm.

Their mother walks into the kitchen and asks the 6-year-old what he wants for breakfast. "Aw hell, Mom, I guess I'll have some Cheerios."

WHACK! He flies out of his chair, tumbles across the kitchen floor, gets up, and runs upstairs crying his eyes out, with his mother in hot pursuit, slapping his rear every step. The mom locks him in his room and shouts "You can just stay there till I let you out!"

She then comes back downstairs, looks at the 4-year-old, and asks with a stern voice, "And what do YOU want for breakfast young man?

"I don't know," he blubbers, "But you can bet your ass it won't be Cheerios!"

Hey Ken

I posted something on the thread without being aware of this one.

Good on you for apologizing to LaDita and I'd like to do the same to you, I read the OP and got annoyed and posted a fairly aggressive response. There was no need for that.

:ghug

Mad props to you, Ken! :)