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Hello,
I am not sure if I just perpetually abuse alcohol or am an alcoholic, either way I want to stop.
I think it is linked to stress, I get stressed I drink, mind you sometimes I feel good so I drink, or tied so I drink.
I have done so many silly things while drunk. Is it the drink or just my stupidity released by the drink? It came close to ending my marriage eighteen months ago, and I got in fight over nothing a couple of days ago that could have ended my career.
Whatever, even after a bottle of wine I still want more and usually add another bottle of wine or some spirits.
I have stopped for 2 days, part of me still wants a drink and I have lost my appetite for food but no shakes.
I stopped for six months last year but started Sept again, this time!
Thanks for listening.
Thanks,
Rob

it's nice to meet you, rob. any thoughts on what you'll do different this time to stay sober past the six months you had before?

congrats on your 2 days!

keep reaching out, k

Hey mate!

Sounds a lot like i was about 8 years ago when i still had some level of control over booze! Have you thought about going to AA or seeing an alcohol counseller, the latter has helped me stop (10 weeks now which fron drinking everyday is great)? Just some ideas for you. coming here to post and read really helps me too:-)

Welcome rob!

Love from

Lenina

We say alcohol is a "symptom"...

But we do and say things under the influence we would never do or say in

our right minds. So it is probably the drink.

You say you drink when stressed, but also when you feel good, or tired.

Got into a fight..alcohol is affecting your career, and marriage.

It is..probably..the drink!

Don't beat yourself up...you reached out and came here.

So, Welcome welcome to SR!!!!

Just stay on with us, and get that ongoing support.

I go to AA..a lifesaver.

Congrats on 2 days...and good luck.

IO

Thanks for the replies,
I am gong to a counseller next week. A little scarey!
Good luck.

Last time I think I expected the wanting to drink to go away of a couple of months. The start I expected to be difficult but. I dropped my guard. I didn't talk to anyone last time just tried to do it myself.
There was a festival I go to I met up with some old friends and there I was drinking again.
I will give better try this time

Welcome! You've found a great place for support. I give this site a huge chunk of the credit for being able to stay sober over six months now. Glad you found this loving online family.

:ghug3

Hi Rob

just to let you know when i went to the counseller they got me to do a written 'test' which tells them how you are with regard to certain aspects of your self, e.g. depression, anxiety etc.

Turns out I was clinical for a lot of them which, some of them, is to be expected whilst drinking but others were not right, especially the depression and the anxiety. They put me seroxat (anti depressant) and gave me antabuse (pill a day, non addictive, just makes you sick if you drink so creates a barrier for you to make sure you dont have a drink) and its working great for me, need to keep working on it all but thats the process isn't it and never been happier in my life!

8 years ago i would have told the counseller to **** off and im not going on meds like some crazy guy, so pls keep an open mind to it all, thats all im saying...great news that you are going...brilliant!

welcome Rob :)
let us know how the counsellor goes.

keep posting - none of us does this alone, mate :)

D

Welcome Rob!
You can call yourself whatever you want or not, but I do know that if you choose not to drink and dive into a program of recovery, you can call yourself free!
While you are waiting to see the counselor next week, why not try a couple of AA meetings this weekend? It might give you some insight and I know it won't hurt you!

Rob...Welcome! You have proved to yourself that sobriety is indeed possible...add to what you have learned from your last quit. Keep posting and don't drink! Best of luck.

Welcome to SR Rob :)

Thanks every one, it's is really encouraging.
I have drunk lots and lots and water and am going to bed now.
Thanks again,
Rob

Hi,
I too, only have 2 days sober, and now it's the weekend. Sorry, should introduce myself, I am Staci and do want to never drink again, but right now it seems hopeless to me. I drink for many different reasons, too many to list .
Stress probably being the main one.
Any help, advice or jsut friendship would be great.! Thanks and God Bless.

Hi Rob,

Welcome!

It sounds like you found out that recovery is an ongoing process.

One of the things I do for myself, is to come here to SR every day and read and be inspired.

Hi Staci

Welcome to SR! Have you tried to get any sort of help before?

Cliff

Hi there - I am new to this website. I can relate to Rob's posting - as I am an alcoholic who has been sober over three years. His instances and unmanagibilty are the sames reasons I pursued sobriety. Sober living is the way to be for me. I'd like to hear how you are doing ROb - keep coming back.

Welcome to the board Rob...I too am on day 2 and need to cut back. Good Luck, You've come to the right place.
Thanks for finding us.
XOXO
:ghug

[QUOTE=yeahgr8;2046362]Hi Staci

Welcome to SR! Have you tried to get any sort of help before?

I have tried AA before, once had a whole 4 mos sober, I am starting therapy on Monday, scared but hopeful.

Therapy sounds great, i went to alcohol counselling and it is working great for me. Would be great to hear how you get on and don't be too scared. I've given up for periods of time before but this is the first time i have really gone and tried to find out why i was drinking and it was quite interesting to be told that i was self medicating...which made all the sense on the world to me!

keep in touch and good luck on Monday, all the reason in the world to be hopeful about it:You_Rock_

Hi :newbe:

I found this link from our Alcoholism section helpful:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html

I also find it helpful to plan ahead for social events where there will be alcohol served. I keep a non-alcohol beverage in my hand.

Welcome to the family.

Welcome :)

Thank you! I am going to therapy for other issues in my life, but am sure it will help with the drinking too. Thank you for your kind words of suuport!

I didn't feel good this morning. I am spending longer in bed but sleeping on and off. On the positive side I went cycling this morning freezing cold but good.
Thanks for the replies.

Thanks Pelican for the link it was realy interesting.
The Brain chemistry really made me think. I thought I had built up high tolerance to alcohol, but I was wronge. I am starting to think that was still effecting me I was just so used to it I didn't realise.

Welcome, Rob & Staci! :D

DK

Congrats on another day Rob!

And welcome to you, Staci!

Welcome Rob2009!

And Welcome Staci1825 - happy to see you here!

Stick around, there is great support here!