Ewwww...rotten attitude Okay...I have a confession. Jules just ruined her rep by being a softie and we love it. But I've been a pretty happy little camper here so far. Honestly though, since Tuesday my mood has been in the toilet. I don't want to drink, haven't had any major cravings, nothing I couldn't handle at least but my attitude is rotten and I don't like it. :c001: I'm getting all twisted up about stupid stuff. I'm becoming one of "those" people. You know the ones: negative things coming out of my mouth, groaning when the phone rings, flipping the bird to bad drivers, feeling "icky" on the inside. I keep trying to laugh it off but inside I'm like WTF? Kathleen. What is wrong with you? I am not like this. Well, we all get in our little moods but this has lasted about 4 days and it's just not like me to be such a crabby b*tch 24/7. So I was wondering....can we have a seance here or something? To drive out my negative emotions. They surely must be coming from the devil. An exorcism? ;) Seriously I would like some advise. I know it will pass. I know don't drink but what to do in the mean time if anything? Just be patient and ride it out? Or is some way I can head this off at the pass. I don't like being such a grumpy angry person all the time. :wtf2 |
Try sitting down and writing about it luv. Not here. I know, it sounds sucky..but it a good tool to find out what eating at you. Don't tackle too much at once, especially if it triggers a lot of emotion you feel you cannot handle alone. Come back and "talk it out"..privately here if you don't want to share it on the open. Just a suggestion. Easy does it... Hugs friend |
Hrmm... could you be having your period soon? I turn into mega-evil-ultra-cow just before I get mine. (On a side note "mega-evil-ultra-cow" would be a great action hero...) I take Evening Primrose Oil to help with moods - and B2 is good to get rid of stress. Apparently, I have no idea if they actually work. Running helps me feel better. Once I finish my run I feel energised and just a general sense of happiness. Getting the motivation to run when you're feeling crabby is hard though - make yourself go out, take the dogs for a stroll maybe? Physical activity is meant to stimulate enorphines or something that make you happy. Look up "Talking dogs" on YouTube - that should give you a chuckle... I love the "I want it!" dog. I usually try to talk away my bad moods. If I start thinking something crappy I make myself stop and then start day dreaming about what I'd do if I won a million dollars (give half to my parents then travel the world after treating my friends to a trip to Vegas lol). Seriously though, I hope you're feeling better soon. It sucks to feel grouchy. |
Well I have no idea what you're talking about Kathleen...I never get like that :angel: OK ok I know - 'nuff already... It could just be - you're 30 days in - mind body and soul take a while to heal...I was insanely up and down there for a while...it's one of the reasons why this recovery thing sucks so hard. I think you're doing well - keep doing it :) D ps Jules is a softie? :scared: |
ps Jules is a softie? |
LMAO have you not read my posts? no no please...be my guest.... :a115: D |
OOOOOOHHHMMMMMM!!! I cast you out...vile ...filthy ....evil..ickies!!!! http://i174.photobucket.com/albums/w...luce7/poof.gif http://i44.photobucket.com/albums/f1...ux/biggrin.jpg OOOPPPSS!!!! Oh well..your smiling..right?? Hope you feel better!! |
Ha...love the goat with the braces Chiynita. Yes, it did make me laugh and that's still the best medicine I know of. |
Chiy, that was funny. |
Can I just say that I have no idea what the problem is-all sounds perfectly normal to me......LMAO! I'm sorry-I'm not being flippant-I'm just so laughing at being used as such an awful example :lmao No-seriously-I just want to say-this is normal K :hug: I think it's part of the progression from moving past the 'I didn't drink today woo hoo' crap-to 'this is my new life and I'm a bit scared about how to deal with all these emotions I used to drink away and now can't' It's quite a transition and not an easy one-but it does get easier over time( a loooooong time-sorry) My father said something to me recently that made me laugh though-and he was probably inadvertantly referring to me.He said 'Jules-some people were real assholes when they were drinkers.Then they sober up and-now they're just sober assholes' LOL(he's been sober over 30 years now) I just laughed! I don't think you're one of them though.(for the record)I just think you're learning to feel again after being numb for a long time.It'll pass-I promise(unless you're like me and just remain a grouchy b*tch because-well-that's what I am-with occassional exceptions.....lol) I'd hug you, but..... ;) Jxox |
My father said something to me recently that made me laugh though-and he was probably inadvertantly referring to me.He said 'Jules-some people were real assholes when they were drinkers.Then they sober up and-now they're just sober assholes' LOL(he's been sober over 30 years now) Can I just say that I have no idea what the problem is-all sounds perfectly normal to me......LMAO! Thanks Jules - Want to join me in the cuddle thread after this? (Oh hell no!!) |
You're welcome and oh yes-I'm always up for a cuddle :wtf2.....(when hell freezes over.....) LOL! My father is a very astute man and one of the few people in A.A I respect .I don't do A.A-but well-is that hard to imagine? Good luck to anyone wanting to sponsor me :lmao Jxox |
lol you guys make me laugh, thank you :) |
:ghug3 Good luck to anyone wanting to sponsor me? |
ROTFL Oh-I just can't post what I want to here without possibly getting banned-but yes-LOL I have to go to bed now.Thanks for the laughs (and even the love....yada yada yada....) ;) Julesxox |
and I'm off for my dinner...really going now....LOL Hope things seem brighter tomorrow Kathleen bye :wave: |
At 30 days I was Jeckyl and Hyde, I also remember rapid mood swings so being in a bit of a mood sounds normal to me. :) |
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Ha ha...what do you see in the crystal ball Rusty Zipper? A b*tch? :lmao: |
i know when we have attended family sessions at my daughter's rehabs - we talked a lot about feelings. we were told to keep them real simple - today i am ... glad happy sad angry afraid then, we were told to be grateful that for the folks that were in recovery from addiction - that they were clean and sober enough today to be able to "feel" their feelings and for those of us recovering from being the loved ones/friends of alcoholics/addicts - that the chaos had subsided enough today that we able to stop spinning around long enough to "feel" our feelings. i thought that was a pretty good way to approach it. :) hope this helps, HEAD FRY COOK OF STATE.... |
It does help. That's nice and simple. I'm really bad at identifying what I'm feeling. I'm not a touchy feely person so I tend to think, I'm fine. What's my problem? Everything is good. And when it's not good, I think, well. I don't want to think about that. I'm going to try your suggestion today, just to see if there is anything there, recognize it, not fear it and turn it into something positive. I like that. Thank you. |
see if there is anything there, recognize it, not fear it and turn it into something positive. I like that. |
Thanks IQ. I know it's "I of the Storm" now but you will always be IQ to me. ;) |
just let it be boston....if you don't grab on and hold on the feelings will change...at least for me....I AM the bouncing ball http://i308.photobucket.com/albums/k.../superball.gif |
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just let it be boston....if you don't grab on and hold on the feelings will change...at least for me....I AM the bouncing ball http://i308.photobucket.com/albums/k.../superball.gif I get like that too...I wanna rip peoples haeds off and roll it down the street somedays. Its normal. I had alot of anger issues. So I was a ticking time bomb. I experoenced this a little this morning. I had moved my computer last night into my room so the kids could have the spare room all to themselves with more room. I woke up and my grams was in there cleaning and vaccuming. I got mad. Because she didnt have the bed the where I wanted it and just cause it was somthing that I was going to d today. I felt bad for getting mad. And she was just doing what she does. I have learned to do alot of stopping ..breathing and calming myself down before I react. I try to think about why I am feeling like that. And try really hard to stop. Sometimes it just doesnt work. But you know. We arent perfect. |
Ha...I've seen your bouncing ball before Ananda and always get a laugh from it! Wait...that didn't come out right at all. :wtf2 I try to think about why I am feeling like that. And try really hard to stop. Sometimes it just doesnt work. But you know. We arent perfect. |
Sometimes my rotten, crappy, negative place is RIGHT where I need and eventually I get to laughing again and saying "boy, I can be such an #@*&^$@#%"!!!!!!!!! HA HA!!!!!! BUT if you need a hand, here ya go................:nana: |
"he who angers you wins" |
Originally Posted by HopeTo180
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"he who angers you wins" |
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