This is Day One...
 

Hey Everyone,

So today is day one. This is something I have thought about for a long time. I am 33 years old and have a professional job a great home and a wonderful husband. There is absolutely nothing wrong with my life except the one small fact that I “REALLY” like to drink. And, for me it is really really bad when I drink. First of all I am a gastric bypass patient and now two beers and I feel tipsy. But, when I lost my ability to be addicted to food I picked up and addiction to drinking. I want to get off this roller coaster ride. But, it never seems quit possible. I always see the dips and the turns… but I never do anything to ignore them. I always seem to hit them straight on…

And, the bad thing is that my husband is the greatest man in the world. And, we have only been married two months. But, I have seen my drinking shatter him when I become a total bitch when drinking. If I was a happy drunk maybe I wouldn’t want to actually stop. (sad huh?) But, as it stands I am here.. I want to make this commitment. I want to change. I don’t want to be the destroying force that my mother was when she drank. I have to get off this roller coaster ride.

So this is day one…

Hopefully I will have a day two…
And three…

Thanks for listening and reading… I am really enjoying the forum.

Welcome! I think you will really like it here. The people are truly awesome. You'll definitely get support and love and encouragement here.

I too am a gastric bypass patient...I had mine 5 years ago...and I let alcohol become my "food"...it was easier for me to drink than to eat...so my alcoholism went full on out of control!!! I was lucky enough to get arrested for a duii on july 11.... and I have been sober ever since....if you ever want to chat send me and PM....good luck...and stay strong..
xoxoox LG

I had my gastric bypass 4 years ago. And, it has been totally amazing. I am grateful that I was given the chance to live life again. And, I have talked to several people who have had the gastric bypass and said they to picked up drinking after the surgery. I am not going to let my drinking stop me from being who I am... and allowing myself to full change and live my life.

Thank you for writing back.. ;)

Hi Saliena,

Welcome!

I'm glad you are committed to living a sober life. There is lots of support here.

Hi Saliena and welcome,
All I can say is that I can certainly relate. I too am a 33 year old woman with a bad drinking problem. I haven't had gastric bypass but oddly enough, I know a woman who did who also started drinking heavily after her surgery. I think you have certainly come to the right place for friends and support, I count the SR group as among the finest people I've ever known. So hang around for a while, I am sure you'll learn a lot. I know I have.
Good luck!
fd

Welcome to SR Saliena! :hug:

Glad that you found us! Keep posting and check out the other forums-and the stickies
at the top of the forums!

There is a wealth of information and support here! We are here for each other you are
not alone!

Hi Saliena - congratulations on your wise decision. You're young and can turn it all around and have a wonderful, healthy life. It's quite common to become addicted to alcohol after surgery - I saw a great Oprah with Carnie Wilson awhile back, where she talked about her alcoholism. SR has helped to save my life & I owe so much to these wonderful people - so happy you found us!

It started for all of us with a "day one"...and, no matter how long we've been sober, we still do it "one day at a time". You can, too!

Thanks everyone for your support. I am going with a friend of mine tomm to my first AA meeting. I didn't want to do it alone... and with all of you all I am sure I am not doing it alone. Thanks for all your support.

Exccellent plan....:)
Don't look for the differences when members share.
Do listen for how they stay sober.

Welcome to SR...:wave:

Hi saliena welcome here everyone here is fantastic and so supportive Im lucky to find this place as you will be too:Valdog:

Hi and welcome :)

Welcome!! This place has saved my a$$ a number of times, so have meetings!

Welcome to SR, it makes me really happy to hear you're going to try an AA meeting and that you want to make a commitment to sobriety.

Wish I could say that I stopped drinking soon enough to save my marriage, but I kept going thinking that someday it'd just be OK. It's not too late for you, please take this seriously and choose a sober life!

Welcome! Today is Day 1 for me so let's do it together ok? I have a lot to live for as you do. I think booze is pointless you know?

My 2nd day
 

Hello I just wanted to say it's nice to be starting out this sober journey with others in the same boat. I had my epiphany this weekend when I behaved horribly at a friends house and embarassed myself and my husband, that was the worst! I decided that's it! I feel somewhat liberated in that decision as drinking has always been a challenge after my gastric bypass. I would always try to pace myself, drink water between drinks, etc. I decided yesterday that if it was so much work, why bother? My husband and I are involved in many social events and I think about two in particular that are coming my way and it seems so much easier to me to just not drink then to try and drink responsibly. Whew...now let's just hope that's a feeling that lasts! :praying

I look forward to using this forum and getting to know you. I truly believe you have to do this one day at a time and that's all I can worry about.

Thanks for being here!

Hello Hilltopper & Epiphany!! Welcome to SR!

Welcome to SR Saliena :)

Hi Saliena,,
I'm close to your age, 32 years old and can also be a total betch when I drink, especially to the man I love. That's part of the reason I wanted to change last year. Had a lot good intentions and trys and failures but now I'm here, a year later and have 4 weeks under my belt. It's a good start. You can use this site as a tool and read a lot of posts you will probably relate to. Looking forward to your posts and progress.

Best Wishes,
Kathleen

I'm going to a private counselor now and have been for several months. For quite some time I would make one or two days sober then drink again. The last time I saw her about two weeks ago (I had a conference and she's on vacation now) I hadn't drank in 11 days (I'm up to 28 today). She's is very supportive and while she obviously doesn't want me to drink, she did remind me that if I did relapse and then stop again, it would be a different "day 1" than before. I would have grown at least a little from the previous one.

So while we here all want you to stay sober, don't tear yourself to shreds if you do relapse. If you do, take inventory, talk with people, forgive yourself, and start again. You are allowed to make mistakes, but the biggest one you can make is not learning from all the other ones you do make.

Good luck and good health.

Hey Hilltopper... : )Yay for together.. LOL Yes I am a dork.. but, you know what... I made it past day one...

How did it go for you?

WELCOME to SR :)

My day one, too.
 

If you want to email me my address is in my profile. I'm so scared of failing. I just cant take the shakes, anxiety, guilt, shame, the list could go forever.

LORI

Hello Lori, and welcome to SR and your first day of recovery.

That way you're feeling now? You don't ever have to feel that way again. Recovery is possible, keep reading and posting and you'll see how we do it.

Well my migraine is starting to get better and I'm not queezy to my stomach anymore. I've done this before so I knew what to expect. It is just insane that I was so compelled to drink two bottles of wine every night by myself but in front of my wife and both kids. On a good night it was 3/4 of a bottle. Frequent blackouts. I mean watching the olympics and arguing with my wife the next day that we hadn't seen this event yet and stuff. So in my mind it is pointless. The bigger challenge for me it the temptation to drink socially which is where I get into trouble. We have a huge group of friends and family that all drink to one degree or another. I keep thinking how many people I know though where alcohol isn't in there lives at all. Not that they made that decision, but that they just dont' need it or want it. I'M NOT THEM! That is all there is to it. I can't do that, never will be able to do it.

Hey HillTopper,


Yeah I know the feeling... I am a social drinker as well. I am afraid of this weekend. It is my first weekend not drinking. I am planning everyone of my mins around other things... I have a great group of friends who I dearly love.. and I dearly love drinking with... so it is going to be hard... I am not really sure what to make of that situation yet....

Here is to day 4...

Saliena

Welcome aboard Saliena!
 

I'm on day 3 and this is the place! There is so much wonderful support here it makes me want to cry. Keep writing and checking back! It's good to "see" you!

:a122: :Val004: :ghug

Three years after I wrote this post... and I am just now GETTING IT.... you know atleast I am getting it finally working a good program and grateful that God put me through all of this.